(August 25, 2015 at 2:43 pm)thesummerqueen Wrote:(August 25, 2015 at 2:21 pm)rexbeccarox Wrote: I probably wouldn't care at all either (except about the Josh Duggar part) if I hadn't been exposed first-hand to it, to be honest. My schadenfreude admittedly comes from my own experience.
I totally get that. I really do. On the other hand, I kinda get what Rhythm is talking about. I had an ex whose uncle, before marrying into the family, carried on an affair with someone as discreetly as possible while still married to a woman who was very ill both physically and mentally. He couldn't just divorce her and dump her, and she was clearly declining so "abandoning her before death" seemed shittier to him than having the affair for companionship and comfort. So he did. And was condemned for it. After his wife's death, he eventually remarried - into my ex's family, and his aunt was not the woman he was having an affair with. The other lady was just someone who was helping him get through things at the time, in the only way he knew how without going crazy.
Not my circus, not my monkeys.
Hate your ex all you want. Hate the people who talk out both sides of their mouths. If you individually confront someone and find they're cheating for extremely stupid reasons, then fine, condemn them as well. But sometimes, just sometimes, people are stuck between a rock and hard place, so they do some damage to the hard place, it being the easier of the obstructions. That's all.
I don't hate anyone; not even my ex. If anything, I'm glad AM was there for me to discover on my laptop because it sped along an inevitable process. I'm just reveling in a little glee that most of the hacked are scumbags, because, sure there are sometimes justifiable reasons people cheat (or profit from cheating), but usually they're just scumbags.
Nolite te bastardes carborundorum.
