(August 25, 2015 at 2:59 pm)Catholic_Lady Wrote: I'd just like to make a distinction here real quick.
While cheating on your spouse is wrong regardless of whether you do it with your secretary, or through someone you meet on a cheating website, I'd say there is something particularly nasty about actually seeking out an affair by paying money and joining a site for it.
The guy at work can say "well I didn't intend on having an affair with my secretary, it just happened, I just fell in love." ...still a complete joke and totally inexcusable, mind you, but the guy who actively seeks out an affair, joins a site, and pays money for it, can't even say that much. It just adds another layer of nasty to the whole situation.
(August 25, 2015 at 3:08 pm)Rhythm Wrote: But what about that is nastier, seeking as opposed to just finding? ...
A distinction similar to Catholic_Lady's point is common in law. Very often, premeditated murder is regarded as worse than spur of the moment, opportunistic murder. (Often, the difference is between first and second degree murder, though these terms depend on the particular jurisdiction.)
So whether she is right or wrong, the distinction between planning something and not planning it in advance is one that many people find compelling.
"A wise man ... proportions his belief to the evidence."
— David Hume, An Enquiry Concerning Human Understanding, Section X, Part I.
