(March 31, 2017 at 11:05 pm)Catholic_Lady Wrote:(March 28, 2017 at 9:27 am)Brian37 Wrote: Some recent events are helping me cope better.
Went to my mom's nursing home to pay her last bill, was met with lots of smiles from the staff and everyone asking me how I was doing. Now have a new Facebook friend and most likely will hang out with him in the future. He was my mom's occupational therapist. He used to live in the same city I did long before we knew each other, and hates right wingers as much as I do, although he believes himself. I'll be working on that.
And went to the bank to take care of mom's finances. The guy helping me turned out he was a fan of Neil Degrasse Tyson and watches Star Talk, knew who Sagan was.
Still though, while I was at the nursing home outside talking to one of her former mates and her daughter, I found myself turning to the door to go in, in my mind I was on auto pilot wanting to go back to my mom's room, had to stop myself of course. I still get those feelings even at home, of the phone ringing wanting it to be her.
I'm glad there are people out there who are being kind and supportive. Sounds like you have handled/are handling this tragedy with grace. Your mother would have been very proud. <3
Thank you. One piece of advice, skip the word "tragedy". I get your intent, but that simply is not the right word to use. My mom's life was not a tragedy, it was a joy. Her dying was extremely emotionally painful for me, but dying is not a "tragedy" it is an unfortunate part of nature, but a very natural part of nature. Pain is certainly involved, moreso for the person facing their mortality, but no "tragedy". A "tragedy" is something that could have been avoided, and since death is not something anyone can escape, it is natural event, all be it painful, but it is not a "tragedy".
"Grace"? Me, nope, even now I feel like I have no clue what I am doing. In all seriousness I do get your intent, and thank you for your kind words. I don't want to die slowly like she did, but if I were to get stuck in that same position, I only hope I can be as brave as she was.