(March 22, 2018 at 12:34 am)Hammy Wrote:(March 22, 2018 at 12:33 am)paulpablo Wrote: I already stated a long time ago that for me it definitely would be a deal breaker
And there's no surprise there!
(March 22, 2018 at 12:33 am)paulpablo Wrote: I get turned off at the thought a girl used to be a man with a penis, it's just psychological.
Just like phobias are. Ding!
Sure, not everything psychological is a phobia... but this very clearly is. I mean, come on, if you were brought up in a culture where being trans and cis were both considered equally normal you wouldn't have this phobia. We're talking about someone who you intially start being attracted to and then discover they used to have a penis, and we're asking why you thinking about that turns you off. It's your upbringing and life experience, not your innate heterosexuality talking here.
It's not like a dude just put a penis in your ear. I almost certainly wouldn't ever like that either. (But if I ever did I wouldn't pretend I didn't. And yes. Even in the ear. Either we like something or we don't. (in my case no thanks I reckon LOL))
I don't know if it's my innate sexuality or not, for all practical purposes it makes no difference. Innate sexuality is very primitive, it's highly likely that in a different society, lets say one where there are only trans women and men, I'd most likely be attracted to and having sex with trans women. My primitive brain would be directing me towards the closest living human that looks like it might have reproductive value for me, even if the person doesn't.
The fact that I live in a society with mostly CIS women means I can choose, and it's actually easier to choose CIS women. It could be some relationship with the conscious brain that knows this person used to be a man, and the primitive brain that just wants to find fertile ovaries of naturally born women.
Most of my attraction related to women, and it's true of most males, are signs of fertile ovaries. Ontop of that I have a load of other likes and dislikes that I can't even begin to understand, I like girls with a slight lazy eye (Ariana Grande, Selena Gomez) I can become infatuated with lesbians, I dislike girls that use certain words or eat certain food.
I don't know if it's a phobia. It's a thought that subtracts sexual attraction for me to a great degree, more than a fear.
Are you ready for the fire? We are firemen. WE ARE FIREMEN! The heat doesn’t bother us. We live in the heat. We train in the heat. It tells us that we’re ready, we’re at home, we’re where we’re supposed to be. Flames don’t intimidate us. What do we do? We control the flame. We control them. We move the flames where we want to. And then we extinguish them.
Impersonation is treason.
