(March 22, 2018 at 11:07 pm)Hammy Wrote: Yes. I have only been attracted to a couple of transwomen in my life and if it was none of them instead of a couple that wouldn't be transphobic. But I think if I was not attracted to transwomen because they're trans, rather than because I don't find them attractive, then to me that doesn't seem genuine.
You have a word 'transphobic' that has clear negative connotations. What you're doing is widening the umbrella to squeeze benign things under it, while relying on the severity of the label 'transphobic' to imply it's worse than it is.
This is pretty common, and a really risky tactic. The theory is to pressure people to behave a certain way out of fear of being labeled. But what happens is you draw a silly line in the sand, and people correctly say "If that's truly transphobic, then being transphobic doesn't mean anything of consequence." Which neuters your own cause. Pun unintentional when written, but celebrated in hindsight.
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I'd also add it seems like you might be doing a disservice to the trans cause by making it about appearance. Like cutting off your penis, getting fake boobs, and hormone replacement is 'just like a woman', when I don't think any of that has anything to do with gender. A mustachio'd lady with a big swinging dick who identifies as a woman is just as much of a woman as one who's gone through all the procedures.
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An interesting question for a gay man, would be if they were attracted to such a mustachio'd large penised lady, would finding out they were a woman be a deal breaker? Would that make them straight/bi?