Question to those who,

[Erinome]

Well I would first like to say thank you for all the suggestions. I also wanna say wow and sorry for the problems in Florida. I can't believe there are people that would screw with your family because you don't have the same views in America.

I guess it really wasn't a question of how but if I should start talking to her. Maybe how. The big problem for me is I really don't want to take her childhood and imagination away before she is ready. I kinda feel that if I get serious about what's real and what's fake then she will start to question things like Santa, the Easter bunny and so on. I do realize that those are based on religious holidays but for me and my children they are no better than hallmark holidays. We do celebrate those holidays in my house for one because of tradition and I wasn't always an atheist. We also continue because of my kids.

I'm not sure if my daughter really still believes in the tooth fairy but I don't want to tell her, I want her to come to her own conclusions about those types of things.

This is more or less my dilemma. Am I deluded? Lol

I sort of understand that, but here's how and why I disagree:

Let me start by saying that I went against everyone in my family and told my kids about Santa and the tooth fairy. I didn't really come out and say it as much as I put the logistics in perspective for them, and they figured it out themselves, with me simply confirming their logical findings. Why? Because I want them to trust that their mom will not lie to them. I want their trust. Does knowing Santa is a fake ruin their imagination/wonderment? Not at all. They're some radically imaginative kids, trust me.

Does your daughter also believe that Cinderella is a real person? What about talking animals, like in movies? Chances are she knows they're just pretend. If she doesn't, what value is there in a child believing fairy tales to be true? I understand the not wanting to spoil her fun, but why can she not still have fun, as well as a grip on reality?

She's 10 years old. Let her have one last year believing in Santa, and then please enlighten her. She's growing up, and she needs those lines between reality and fantasy to harden eventually. I remember finding out about Santa, and being devastated. How could the people I loved and trusted the most lie to me? What was the point? I still don't get it! I would have enjoyed my presents just as much knowing the truth, and I did.

Yes, you should enlighten your daughter! Part of being a kid is that moment when your parents enlighten you about things. Tell her the truth about Santa, TTF, The Easter Bunny, Jesus, and all the made up bullshit. She's not going to have less fun in life, she's going to feel like a big girl whose dad trusts that she's old enough to know, and she'll still have an imagination and a sense of wonderment. Tell her some awesome truths, while you're at it!

Tell her about the cosmos, and evolution! Tell her that everything that makes her physical body can be found in the stars, and the amazing story of human evolution and survival through nearly impossible circumstances. Tell her things that are worth wondering about!

Good luck!

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Is it 'copy ElDinero's predictions'?

Damn it!!!!