(April 4, 2013 at 2:14 pm)thesummerqueen Wrote: Only because most people don't understand how non-sexual BDSM also is.Those are communication problems.
David's not the only great man out there. What's key to keeping things together is that he understands how important it is to me and works around it or in it. I guess he cares about me that much - much like your wife must care about you. If I had an "otherwise great" partner who refused to discuss it or refused to acknowledge it or even shamed me for it, I'd leave him.
What if he was willing to acknowledge it and discuss it, but still not participate in it?
Quote:Why should sex be so "unimportant" that it shouldn't affect a relationship? What makes all those other things so much more important?Sex is as important as those other things. If you left an otherwise good partner because of one idiosyncrasy in one of those other things, I'd likewise conclude that you're out of balance.
Sorry, but I think "Hey, you're a wonderful person and I love you, but I'm leaving you because you won't take it up the ass" would indicate a very selfish, imbalanced person.
I would like to think that if my wife somehow became physically incapable of having sex that I'd still be faithful and happy. Miss the sex, sure, but it's just one piece of a wonderful puzzle.
