(September 8, 2013 at 6:07 pm)Heir Apparent Wrote: Hmmm, well the first thing that jumps out at me is your mother who seems to think she can just barge in on you whenever she feels like it, or at least that's how I perceive it.
It sounds to me like she is still trying to have a hand in all your doings, even after you've left, which doesn't sound healthy. Have you simply tried telling her that you're just fine on your own and that you don't need her help? Politely, of course.
I should think being on your own would entitle you to be yourself after all.
It's not so much that she barges in, it's more a case of her being so critical. If I so much as make my husband a cup of tea she immediately becomes judgmental, telling me that he can damn well get it himself. It's so over the top. Just the other week I made him a snack when he came from work and she got on her high horse and started an argument which was so stupid, and so embarrassing. If my husband tells me anything remotely negative, or if he makes the slightest criticism or suggestion, she can't help but weigh in, telling him that he should stop being so controlling. My husband really can't stand her and I don't blame him.
