Insatiable Flirt

[Rayaan]

Wow, you have a pretty selfish view of flirting.

I thought that only corresponded with your own statement, when you said that flirting should always be about fun and ego boost, never about catching someone:

[...] is a shame because flirting should always be this:

Flirting is harmless fun and a great ego boost, I think.

But selfishness was not really my issue. Afterall, almost everything that we do can be called "selfish" in some respect, and you acknowledged that as well. I think that we are inherently selfish creatures, and you might agree with that also. Rather, I was mainly debating the nature and the method of such an ego boost that people get from flirting irrespective of whether they are being selfish or not. Of course the ego boost is selfish.

I don't know, but I also think it is pretty ironic that sometimes you tell members to "fuck what other people might think," but over here you eloquently composed how great it feels just to know that this one particular person admires you and how he makes you feel as if the stars and the whole world has begun to revolve around you ... lol.

Because it has nothing to do with making my confidence better.

So per that statement, flirting has absolutely nothing to do with making your confidence better.

But earlier, you wrote that flirting should always be about ... what? Ego boost.

Nice contradiction you made there.


What is more contradictory is that, after that sentence, you wrote that flirting has everything to do with the making the other person see who they are.

Bolding mine:

It has everything to do with confidently making that person see, just for a moment, themselves reflected in my eyes. They experience for a brief time their self that I know and care about. No longer is that man (or woman) over-worked, graying, tired, and dull. He sees himself again - interesting, worth-knowing, invigorated, attractive, and exciting.

So, initially, you said that flirting should always be about fun and ego boost.
Later, you change gears by saying that flirting has nothing to do with increasing your confidence.
And, finally, you turn it all the way around, i.e. by saying that it's all about making the other person feel important/special.

You made a nice, long post, but apparently your arguments are all over the place.