He had to add you, if he is not answering then Your probably a plan "b" or possibly a future project/option he may want to explore later. If he is everything thing you say he was to you, I'm sure some Joey finds the same qualities appealing. Meaning he's probably with someone at the moment (plan a) and wants to ride that train a little further down the track.
You're probably wanting to revisit your relationship because you are ready to settle down, (you mentioned your age and that you never married) and some times it is much easier for us to move backwards than it is to move forwards. Why? Because forwards there are a lot of unknown and un knowables to contend with. These variables are not good 'nest making material.'
However when we pine over the one that got away, we can bend our memories to fit whatever need we think we have at the movement. This type of idealization leads to compromise and eventually heart break, because it prevents you from seeing what is in front of your face... Piners tend to ignore who people are, for who they have made them out to be and will even go so far as to wait on the person they have created all the while putting up with crap from someone like this guy, that they never would with anyone else.
i have been the one who has gotten away, and had one like your Aussie buddy get away. And spoke with both of them 15 years or so later... To borrow a line from Garth Brooks: "Some times I thank God for unanswered prayers." I was a completely different person when I went out with both of those other women 15 or so years ago. One girl we had one of those if we are not married by 35 pacts. We dated each other and loved each other for about two weeks, and fought like cats and dogs. Then we would go off with someone else the when we broke up with our other dates or even while one was dating someone else's we would get back together and wonder why we ever broke up to begin with.. Then about two weeks later we never wanted to see each other again.. This went on for years... If I married her I would have an episode of dateline done on us, and I'd be in jail.
The point? People change. Find someone suitable for you now, not who you were 15 years ago.
Voltron seem.... Umm
seems .... Entertaining. And not Internet murdery. That's a start. Plus he uses the animal emoti's which speaks volumes to a non Internet murdery personality... (But if you do get murdered by him I had nothing to do with it..) that said he does seem a little creepy/stalkie. Maybe you should just wait for your Aussie and give it three weeks before you get married.
Good luck ca-rox
You're probably wanting to revisit your relationship because you are ready to settle down, (you mentioned your age and that you never married) and some times it is much easier for us to move backwards than it is to move forwards. Why? Because forwards there are a lot of unknown and un knowables to contend with. These variables are not good 'nest making material.'
However when we pine over the one that got away, we can bend our memories to fit whatever need we think we have at the movement. This type of idealization leads to compromise and eventually heart break, because it prevents you from seeing what is in front of your face... Piners tend to ignore who people are, for who they have made them out to be and will even go so far as to wait on the person they have created all the while putting up with crap from someone like this guy, that they never would with anyone else.
i have been the one who has gotten away, and had one like your Aussie buddy get away. And spoke with both of them 15 years or so later... To borrow a line from Garth Brooks: "Some times I thank God for unanswered prayers." I was a completely different person when I went out with both of those other women 15 or so years ago. One girl we had one of those if we are not married by 35 pacts. We dated each other and loved each other for about two weeks, and fought like cats and dogs. Then we would go off with someone else the when we broke up with our other dates or even while one was dating someone else's we would get back together and wonder why we ever broke up to begin with.. Then about two weeks later we never wanted to see each other again.. This went on for years... If I married her I would have an episode of dateline done on us, and I'd be in jail.
The point? People change. Find someone suitable for you now, not who you were 15 years ago.
Voltron seem.... Umm
seems .... Entertaining. And not Internet murdery. That's a start. Plus he uses the animal emoti's which speaks volumes to a non Internet murdery personality... (But if you do get murdered by him I had nothing to do with it..) that said he does seem a little creepy/stalkie. Maybe you should just wait for your Aussie and give it three weeks before you get married.Good luck ca-rox
