Being gay is a fetish.

[John V]

It's not up to me to determine that.  If someone says they're gay, they're gay.  Unless they choose to expand on that, it's none of my business.

So, if a person "toward the middle" of the spectrum self identifies as gay, they're gay, even though they
"sort of do have their choice in the matter." This goes against the born gay paradigm.

No, I would not agree.  Gay people don't choose to be gay any more than I choose to be bisexual or blacks choose to be black.

But, if someone in the middle part of the bi spectrum chooses to self identify as gay, you consider them gay, rather than bi. That's a choice, and blacks don't have that choice.

And where did I indicate that I thought homosexuality was a choice?  I didn't.

1. That's an argument that can be made from your spectrum position. The difference between gay, bi and hetero is an arbitrary demarcation on the spectrum.

2. You said "if true" and made an argument. I'm doing likewise.

I said that I'm bi, and because I'm so far to the center of the spectrum, it's easier for *me* to make a choice in how I act on my sexuality. 

Sure, it's easier for some to choose certain partners than it is for others. That's what I said earlier - that the evidence seems to indicate an innate predisposition toward a sexual identity, but that it's not controlling.