Being gay is a fetish.

[FatAndFaithless]

What the fuck does it matter who is gay and who is not? We're talking about equal rights for all. If two straight men want to marry each other, they should be allowed to.

A lot of people have talked about a lot of things in this thread.

Here's what I'm talking about:
"No, as black people are born black. The born gay (as gay as the wind blows) paradigm is a recent invention for political purposes, i.e. making the very comparison you're making. Once gay rights are established firmly enough, they'll back off of that paradigm. Gays complain about discrimination from heteros, yet gays themselves discriminate against bis."

And your statement above does show some backing off from that paradigm.

I'm not sure why people are upset with me. It seems to be a knee-jerk reaction. I'm basically saying, You've won your rights, now you can be more open about the full range of human sexuality instead of maintaining the born straight/born gay paradigm.

It's not so much that you're 'born gay/straight' as if that's a polar opposite discrete set of categories. The whole thing about being 'born gay/straight' is the fact that as you mature through puberty (when you discover yoru sexual attractions) you don't just get to 'choose' what those attractions are. Gay/straight/bi might be useful shortcut labels, but they aren't separate boxes.