RE: Your views on MARRIAGE
July 9, 2015 at 2:20 am
(This post was last modified: July 9, 2015 at 2:28 am by Salacious B. Crumb.)
(July 9, 2015 at 1:40 am)Catholic_Lady Wrote:(July 9, 2015 at 1:31 am)Salacious B. Crumb Wrote: I don’t understand marriage, period. I never have. I don’t understand why people would want the government in their lives in that way. Why do people want all these legal contracts between themselves? Isn’t a relationship supposed to be something out of love, and not a contract forcing people to stay together that don’t actually want to be together anymore? If two or more people want to be together, then let them. If people don’t want to be together, then don’t have a relationship with each other. I’d rather be happy than miserable. I’d rather be in a real relationship with someone, than to be under a contract, that basically keeps us tied down together in an unnatural way.
If you’re happily married, good for you. I have no problem at all with that, but I’ve seen a few divorces in my life, and they aren’t pretty. It should be a clean split, in my opinion. Not some ongoing split that takes years to settle. Why do you want the government involved in your relationship? Have a mock marriage or something, make your own promises to each other. If you want to have a party to signify that you want to be together with each other for life, than go for it, but why a contract? ..especially when 50% of marriages end in divorce. I don’t think we’re meant to be monogamous. About 3-5% of mammals on the planet are monogamous, it doesn’t seem natural.
The part that really matters to me is my promise to God and to my spouse. The government contract is just practical and convenient for tax breaks, hospital visits, etc. Also, being in the military, my husband actually get's paid more if he has a spouse... and as a "dependent" I get special privileges that I would not get if I was just a girlfriend.
Those small perks shouldn’t make someone want to get married. It is respectable that you want to keep your promise to your spouse, but I don’t understand the point of marriage. To me, it just seems like something that everyone goes along with, because of peer pressure or what is socially acceptable in a given culture. Then, you get judged by most people if you’re 40 years old, and have never been married. Trying to explain this type of logic to people, just makes me seem more crazy, even though it is perfectly rational, to me anyways.
Even if you believe in a god, why include god in your marriage? I see that you want to have a relationship with this deity, but why the need to promise god that you will be together forever? In our reality, god isn’t here living our daily problems. God doesn’t pay your bills, settle your arguments, or cook dinner for your kids. These, and many others, are problems that are dealt with here in reality, by real people, not god. All of the good and bad things that happen in a marriage, or any relationship for that matter, are dealt with by the people in that relationship. I know you believe in god, and respect him, and probably think he blesses you moreso for including him in your marriage (speculating, forgive me if I’m wrong), but what about the catholic marriages that end in divorce? Is that god’s will? Did god bless them for including him in their lives? I think that you know deep down, god won’t solve every one of your problems. He’s not going to pay your bills, he’s not going to feed your children. Just look at the homeless people on the streets and the starving children all over the world that cry out to him everyday.
Basically, after all of those examples, why include god in your relationship with your significant other(s)? (taking into account, the examples I've given you. Unless you don't agree with me, then you can let me know why.)
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