(July 13, 2015 at 10:10 am)Nope Wrote:(July 13, 2015 at 12:02 am)Drich Wrote: Because if my wife's needs are at the forefront of my concern as commanded, then I would know if having sex was a painful thing and stop it till we got that issue resolved, and like wise if she knew I needed to have sex to maintain my spiritual and physical health then she would want to be physically ready to have sex. If that meant a trip to the doctor, and a postpone,ENT in the mean while then I should (according To cor7) be ready to help her do that.
Sometimes my husband is in severe pain. He has been diagnosed with arthritis in his knees and back. Some days it doesn't bother him and we try to do as much as possible, like taking long walks. Other days, it is excruciating for him. When he is in pain, I can't even get in the mood for sex because my focus is on him. If we go to the ER, it will be solely to get him help not to get him help so that we can have sex.
My husband is a wonderful guy. It would break my heart if he felt guilty because he was in pain and might not be able or want to have sex.
I've had my issues with severe back pain, and let me just say, when it is so bad you can move, sex is the last thing on your mind. Now as you demonstrated here or if you follow what Paul said here, His body being yours and your his, You know sex is not on his mind. like wise it is not on yours because you care for Him. So again as 1 cor 7 says you both agree to put sex off for a time...
This doesn't mean because I have had back pain so bad I could not move for a couple of days, that my wife gets to decide we will never have sex again. Like wise if your Husband want to 'go for a walk' then you should not deny him just because his back may give him trouble later on. even if you decided to stop for a while given a set of agreed on conditions.
Again read the verse. This is not about forcing one partner into sex or keeping them from it. Paul is taking the power of sexual control away from one person and making it an Marital decision. Got to remember the time in which this was written. Men has absolute control and authority over their women (the way the OP wants this passage to read) That is why Paul said the authority over the husbands body belonged to the wife. This now meant she had a say when sex was and was not going to happen as well.
