How to not be desperate for a gf?

[jackman]

Well, being one of those that you mentioned is also a quality, not a quantity. We're the quantity, they are the quality.
Most people are aware of this, and therefore they give up any real hopes of dating or marrying a pro-athlete, or a fashion model.
There are some who do not look for these. I for example, would not marry a fashion model. I want to have a wife who is of a certain profession. Like for example, an engineer, or chemist.
Others, like pharmacists want doctors as their spouse.
There are many qualities in which people look for.
But they look for something.
Something specific, not something "general".
Like courage or "be yourself". You sometimes have to be something else than what you are. For me, it's not that really hard. For I doubt that there is a "genuine" Mehmet down there. There never was.
I play a theatre play in my personal life. Treat people differently, speak in different accents, use different facial mimics.
I have to, in order to maintain the social standing I have today.
This sometimes extends to women, to which I also perform the same facade.

well, i'm not putting on a front just to get some 'hooch' from a woman. lol. i'm always who i am and i'm not stressed enough about woman's parts, to bend over backwards just to get in some.

ok, so great, you're a celeb in your parts. what i mean by quality vs quantity is that the women who go for celebs don't know yet if they're quality (they're not necessarily who they see on stage), they're going for the money or fame. so yes, there may be quality in celebs but that's yet unknown to the people who pursue them.

you are welcomed to look for a certain profession to complement your life. i don't look for a business relationship, i look for passion. it doesn't matter to me if she weaves baskets, if she's one of the best at it, then let's talk about it. there's something in someone's eyes when they love what they do, that draws me in. so she doesn't have to be a chemist to have that. however, if that's what you're into, then great for you.