RE: Do you believe in marriage?
October 16, 2012 at 8:48 pm
(This post was last modified: October 16, 2012 at 9:04 pm by Drich.)
(October 16, 2012 at 8:39 pm)Norfolk And Chance Wrote: I admire that you took that baggage on.
I didn't know when we got married I found out about 6 months into it that 'a problem from her past' resurfaced.
she had some dental work done just before the wedding and they gave her an opieate which kickedoff a series of events that turned a couple f-ck buddies/roomates into Husband and Wife.
(October 16, 2012 at 8:40 pm)festive1 Wrote: Addicts are always addicts, some just enter recovery. That being said, I have to give you props for sticking it out, that's not easy.
It wasn't me. I was a wreck who yelled and screamed, and trailer parked myself through 4 years of what seemed like Hell at the time. 'We' both learned the meaning of repentance and what it means to be a slave to sin. By repentance I do not mean "i'm sorry, I'll never do it again please forgive me.." That is not repentance. True repentance is to be broken spiritually over something you can not help yourself from doing, yet you do it anyway.(Paul also says this in Romans8) I saw this in her. She taught me how to repent for my sins. If I repented of my sin, and expected God to forgive me, then how could I not forgive her if she repented and yet fell back into her sin/drug of choice? Then a whole miriad of verses came into focous. Our salvation our relationship with God is contengent on our ablity to forgive others. Or so says Christ in the parable of the unmerciful servant.
I appreciate your observation, but know that i did not "stick things out" I was loved, and inturn tried to relay the love shown me to my wife. As a result of her own efforts with God (recovery here is a joke it's where dealers seek out new customers) she has been 6 years clean/sober.