To what extent is a rape victim responsible for the crime?

[Zazzy]

The problem is determining who is the real victim. Sometimes, women cry rape to get back at the man. As I stated above, rape cases are hard to determine who is telling the truth because it is a case of he said, she said.

I'm sorry to say that this is sometimes true- I've seen it happen (a false accusation). How do you balance these (which I really believe are very, very few) with the number of rapes that aren't reported (most of them)? Or with the number of rapes which women manage to convince themselves were just really bad sexual experiences that they got themselves into, so they feel like they can't report them?

This is why I feel like men and women need to TALK more about this- because there's such a huge divide in experience. Unless you've lived Deliverance, if you are a man you probably don't know what it feels like to be dependent on someone else's sexual decency. Yes- women change their minds sometimes at disappointing moments for reasons that range from good (you said or did something awful) to bad (I know that you are panting after me and that's all I wanted). Does it matter? I tend to think not.

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