(January 3, 2012 at 4:18 am)DeistPaladin Wrote:(January 3, 2012 at 3:55 am)Tiberius Wrote: I should add that according to Rebecca Watson herself, his request started with the words "Don't take this the wrong way". That alone should be a pretty good indicator that whatever followed wasn't meant in a creepy way, but was probably a perfectly innocent request. Watson in her infinite wisdom took it the wrong way.
Anytime someone says "blah blah blah but..." you can ignore the part that comes in front of the "but".
Here's the two things the guy did wrong:
1. Hit on her in the confined space.
2. Invited her to his room, not a public place.
Be careful with that word 'Wrong', because you're using it extraordinarily clumsily.
There is nothing at all inherently wrong with asking any person to do anything in any situation, it's all relative to the values of the people in a particular context - In the case of Rebecca Watson is was the wrong action to take should you desire the achievement of either (i) Furthering a conversation with Rebecca Watson, (ii) Sleeping with Rebecca Watson.
Whether the man in question desired (i) or (ii) is unknown, yet you immediately take to this conclusion and subsequently condemn this man without evidence of intention.
Furthermore, you make another questionable assumption that even if he were to be hitting on her this is in and of it's self wrong, yet the only possible 'bad' done to Rebecca was to make her uncomfortable - Would you say the act of making another person uncomfortable is necessarily wrong? If not, what is special about this particular case of making a person uncomfortable?
If there is anything at all to be learned it is that; If a man does not wish to appear creepy to Rebecca Watson (and some other women) then he ought not to ask them her (them) for a coffee in confined space.
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