(November 13, 2018 at 6:33 pm)Catholic_Lady Wrote: ...But because I hardly EVER talk to ANYONE in my real life about my baby loss/infertility. I don't do it because I don't want to burden friends/family with it, nor do I want to put people in an awkward situation. I act with them like I'm totally fine and downplay how I am feeling in the rare occasions that they do bring it up. When people reach out to me to tell me they are pregnant or go on to me about their kids, I just smile and go along with it and act totally normal even though it kills me inside. I've made a total of 3 posts about this on my facebook in the past 2 1/2 years - one to say I lost the baby (since I had unfortunately already announced my pregnancy), the second one a few months ago to say I was practically sterile and never going to have kids (because I know people are wondering and it makes for an elephant in the room, since people don't know because I never talk about it), and the 3rd one just recently to say I was moving on.
Since I don't talk about it in real life, I have on occasion vented about it here. My post that is being addressed above was posted in the CIJS thread, because that is specifically where vent posts are made. And that is all it was - me using it as an outlet to vent. It wasn't an attempt to garner pity or attention.
Sorry CL to hear that you lost a baby. My mum had a miscarriage as well and I am aware that it can be devastating. I'm infertile so it was never an option for me but I do appreciate that having a baby can be your whole reason for being. I also understand that sometimes we just want to scream out and communicate with other people what we're going through.