Women's clothes?

[MTL]

Yeah, but this tug war primarily exists in places where people's ideologies render them unable to mind their own godddamned business. From where I and many others stand, there simply is no tug war on this particular matter. 

I wear whatever the hell I want to wear. 
Don't like it? Too fucking bad.

THE END

I'll stare wherever I want to stare.

Don't like it? Too fucking bad.

Mind your own goddamned business.

If a woman dresses sexy, then I think she knows she will get a few looks.

As Thena says, as long as it's just stares....and not menacing behavior,
then there's no REAL problem.

I have to raise the question, though:  what do you accomplish by staring?

I can understand a discreet appreciative glance;

but you're promising you will respond to any sexy attire with a meat-stare.

This puzzles and alarms me:


First of all, you'd stand a better chance of eventually getting to touch, and not merely look,
if you began by being civil, respectful, and if the opportunity permits, charming, to her.

(Now, maybe you feel that is unlikely, so you may as well treat yourself to an unapologetic eyeful;
but that brings me to my second point):

...aren't you just tormenting yourself?

Isn't that a bit like lingering outside the pizzeria when you're hungry and broke
just standing there, smelling the pizza cooking,
instead of getting yourself out of torture-range
of dwelling on what you cannot have?

So,

I can't help but wonder why it would be worth it for you to stare,
given both those reasons;

...much less sit and argue with women, about it, in an online forum,
where you make the point, to us, that you PLAN to stare,

...and you are making a point of telling us that,
with just as much deliberation as you probably WILL stare, IRL.

Forgive me, but given the reasons I just provided,
as to why staring would be self-defeating,
I can't help but read that declaration as combative....and a bit disquieting.

It smacks of petulance and resentment.

You're not merely making a good-natured quip about appreciating a sexy woman's appearance;

you're making a promise that if any woman dares to dress provocatively enough to tempt you,
that you will make a point of STARING "where you like".

That is not quite "menacing", but it's certainly intimidating.

The message that it SEEMS like you wish to send, non-verbally, is this:

" I want to make sure there's no doubt in your mind, honey, that while I know what I'm not allowed to do,
I resent that you're allowed to tempt me, anyway, so I'm going to stand here salivating and staring at you,
like a tiger watching a taunting child on the other side of the glass at the zoo.
Yes...you're safe...but I'm not going to pretend for one second that I am happy about it,
and I want you to know that you're damn lucky that glass is between us. "