(February 21, 2018 at 10:05 am)Lutrinae Wrote: CIJS,
Seeing how annoying others' kids are, I am glad that I never had any of my own. (Is it wrong to want to smack to little buggers who constantly scream and cry for no good reason?)
I always find it amusing when kidless people say these things.
I was one of them. Then I had a son who made it easier to judge. He’s always been well behaved, socially skilled, and very polite. Then came my second. He juggles autism, severe social anxiety, and hates people. At first I kept him safe from ugly stares by not taking him out to stores where he could get nervous and act up, but one of his doctors advised otherwise. She said he needed social skill practice and exposure to people in out of routine situations. It requires a lot... a lot to make these outings a success. While there has been a lot of progress, we still get people who give us nasty looks and make ignorant and insulting comments, because let’s face it, they have no idea what’s going on. To them, my child is acting up for “no good reason”. So, I make sure my son isn’t looking as I mouth the words “fuck you” to the assholes. I have no reason to explain myself. And if anyone speaks directly to my son (which makes him very nervous and can ruin his entire day) to scold him, they will hear it from me. Oh, my son making your shopping less than perfect? You can’t cope with little bumps in the road like this? Then said person can either stay home or fuck off, but my kid gets his practice and he won’t be shut out from the rest of the world.
And it works. He’s getting so much better at it.