(December 11, 2016 at 8:55 pm)Losty Wrote:Moderator Notice
Thread has devolved far enough into the realm of flame warring. I suggest everyone take a break, go get some fresh air, and then walk away from it forever. If you can't walk away then remind yourself to cool down because we do have a rule against flaming.
No way should Losty have to referee this .. whatever it is.
Hammy, for whatever it might be worth, arguing with others about the way they're perceiving you is pretty pointless. The brute fact is they are perceiving you the way they do. They can't be mistaken about this. Doesn't mean you have to let their perceptions determine your self image. They can be wrong about who you are, but they can't be mistaken about how they are perceiving you. If their impressions are important to you you just have to acknowledge that even if they aren't what you'd like them to be, that is the way you're coming across. Just sit with that a while. No need to do anything at all.
For those upset with Hammy, care to say what about Ham's actions/words/behavior (?) you find upsetting? I assume you're not mad at him for being who he is. It did seem at one point as if he were asking for people's impressions. But if he is having a hard time dealing with those now maybe we should just let it go?
