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Men are happier with attractive women
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Men are happier with attractive women
I don't know if anyone has come across the HuffPo article which said that men whose wives they find attractive are generally happier than those whose wives they don't consider attractive, whereas for women, it doesn't seem to matter as much, meaning that her husband's perceived attractiveness level has less of an effect on her happiness. In other words, men are apparently happier in their marriages if their wives are attractive to them. Men care about looks more than women do. 450 newlywed couples were tracked over a period of 4 years.

When I read it, it bothered me, for several reasons.

Attraction is highly subjective, which makes the study meaningless.

The study was done over just 4 years, which I don't think is long enough, and therefore I don't feel that the results are accurate. Perhaps if they had done it over 10, maybe 15 years it could have some validity, but even so, the premise is that a woman's looks are an important factor in a man's happiness, so probably not.

It objectifies women.

It reinforces the gender stereotype that women aren't supposed to care about men's physical attractiveness, when in fact they often do. Some women may be open to a man of average looks if he has a decent personality, but does that mean that women don't care at all about a man's looks? Why shouldn't she?

It implies that women don't care about chemistry (of which physical attraction is often a key part). Chemistry is important, but the study seems to be saying that only men care about it.

It perpetuates the idea in society that men are superficial and shallow, as though the way his wife looks would make any significant difference to him.

The belief (stereotype) that women are supposed to be deeper than men is reinforced, when in fact many women are shallow, and don't live up the the stereotype of being sugar, spice and all things nice, nor should they. I think all stereotypes are damaging, whether they are lived up to or not. I know loads of women who won't date a guy unless he has a certain look, not that that's a good thing, but neither is the stereotype that they must behave according to gender norms.

Women nowadays have thankfully broken away from a lot of stereotypes, but this study seems like a step backwards since it puts pressure on women to preoccupy themselves even more on how they look to a man.

It places far too much importance on looking good for a man, or indeed staying with a man.

Lastly, it's not exactly news of the century. I mean, who doesn't like to be with someone that is subjectively attractive to themselves?

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/11/19...99002.html
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RE: Men are happier with attractive women
Uhm...... you do know how a scientific study works, right? If you think you can disprove the study, that's fine: go through the same scientific channels we went through to disprove the anti-vax garbage. But it sounds to me that you don't like the study, not because it's wrong, but because it's conclusions disagree with your own beliefs.
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RE: Men are happier with attractive women
(December 9, 2013 at 10:35 am)TaraJo Wrote: Uhm...... you do know how a scientific study works, right? If you think you can disprove the study, that's fine: go through the same scientific channels we went through to disprove the anti-vax garbage. But it sounds to me that you don't like the study, not because it's wrong, but because it's conclusions disagree with your own beliefs.

I do happen to think that the study is just an excuse to reinforce stereotypical gender norms. But I happen to think that it's incorrect too. Do you think it's incorrect?
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RE: Men are happier with attractive women
(December 9, 2013 at 10:40 am)Kiko Wrote: I do happen to think that the study is just an excuse to reinforce stereotypical gender norms. But I happen to think that it's incorrect too. Do you think it's incorrect?

Until given credible evidence that it's incorrect, I'm going to assume it's correct. So far, such evidence has not been provided.
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RE: Men are happier with attractive women
Welcome! Interesting first post. Stereotypes or not, I have seen both genders plce looks at or near the top of what's important.

I'm not sure I agree or disagree. I mean, I do look at females I find attractive. It is what it is. And that will be the first thing I notice about a female unless I am talking to her over the phone.

Females can be just as "shallow", if you even want to call it that. I follow the gymnastics team at my University on Facebook. They are attractive...and so are the boys they hang out with and date.

I don't think any of this is necessarily bad. It's good to have a body that works. And the better that body works, the better it will likely look (except maybe the face. What is a healthy face?). However, I do understand the plight of those who have gland (?) issues that cause their weight. That must be frustrating. As for me, I overeat. I am responsible for all of my weight. I have no reason to be proud of it or even indifferent.

It's good to look good.

So...give us an intro on the intro board (wherever that even is). Who are ya? Where are ya? How are ya?
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RE: Men are happier with attractive women
(December 9, 2013 at 10:45 am)TaraJo Wrote: Until given credible evidence that it's incorrect, I'm going to assume it's correct. So far, such evidence has not been provided.

This has been proven . Attractiveness can be in two ways . Physically or characteristics(temperament) . Naturally people will be happier with attractive persons . This is the human nature , but there is a saying , I will hopefully translate correctly ; "You will be saturated within 40 days for one of the prettiest face , you wont be saturated within 40 years for one of the lovely temperament "

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RE: Men are happier with attractive women
(December 9, 2013 at 11:07 am)Nineteen Wrote:
(December 9, 2013 at 10:45 am)TaraJo Wrote: Until given credible evidence that it's incorrect, I'm going to assume it's correct. So far, such evidence has not been provided.

This has been proven . Attractiveness can be in two ways . Physically or characteristics(temperament) . Naturally people will be happier with attractive persons . This is the human nature , but there is a saying , I will hopefully translate correctly ; "You will be saturated within 40 days for one of the prettiest face , you wont be saturated within 40 years for one of the lovely temperament "
That's actually a nice sentiment.

For balance I want a study done examining the relevance of penile size.
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Through passion, I gain strength.
Through strength, I gain power.
Through power, I gain victory.
Through victory, my chains are broken."
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RE: Men are happier with attractive women
Nothing new, I would have been surprised if it was the other way around

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#9
RE: Men are happier with attractive women
I'm going to have to call bullshit on you Kiko. The study just doesn't reinforce your androgynous feminist ideology so you immediately dismiss it as sexist. I actually find the study interesting and (from my personal experience at least) it seems to hold true. I know plenty of hot girls who have been with below average guys, yet been completely happy with their relationships. I personally, am also very shallow, as are most guys I know.
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RE: Men are happier with attractive women
It's not surprising. Who would you be happier being married to?

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