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RE: Have I Told You At Least Once Today That I Love You?
August 10, 2014 at 12:01 pm
I am always trying to surprise people in order to show them that I love them.
I just sent my mom a letter in the mail that simply says, "I love you Mama, Boudreaux." Nothing more. (Her nickname for me since I was 12 has been Boudreaux. I have no idea where it came from.)
I love doing things for others (I think it's some inner desire to please in order to feel worthy). So I love to surprise my girlfriend by cooking or building something useful for the house. She genuinely surprises me all the time when she puts on a dress that I haven't seen before or gets out of the shower and is completely un-self conscious.
I know my sister loves to give advice, so I call her all the time and get her advice on things like meal planning, gardening, or cleaning. And my little brother just loves to talk, so I have those conversations with him all the time, try to keep it the right level of small talk and meaningful things.
It is important to tell the people that you love that you love them. But the "staleness" doesn't happen if you keep it fresh!
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RE: Have I Told You At Least Once Today That I Love You?
August 10, 2014 at 12:36 pm
My wife and I say "I love you" to each other all the time. I never tire of hearing her express her love for me in so many words.
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RE: Have I Told You At Least Once Today That I Love You?
August 10, 2014 at 1:32 pm
(August 10, 2014 at 12:36 pm)ShaMan Wrote: My wife and I say "I love you" to each other all the time. I never tire of hearing her express her love for me in so many words.
Good on yer, same with us.
I've never understood the argument, 'I shouldn't HAVE to say it - you can tell I love you by the way I act.'
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RE: Have I Told You At Least Once Today That I Love You?
August 10, 2014 at 5:55 pm
We say it all the time; plenty of hugs and kisses to go around also. I hold my wife's hand wherever we go and it's not uncommon to find short sweet little notes left behind. We've always had a "don't bother me at work" pollicy, but the advent of text messages allow a simple "I love you" to be passed along.
It's never routine and always sincere. I wouldn't want it any other way.
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RE: Have I Told You At Least Once Today That I Love You?
August 10, 2014 at 9:44 pm
When I was younger I hardly ever said it. In some sense I don't think I felt qualified. Now I say it quite a bit. Something about not wanting to have regrets. Plus I'm pretty hard to live with so it only seems fair.
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RE: Have I Told You At Least Once Today That I Love You?
August 10, 2014 at 10:17 pm
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I've been in a couple relationships where I heard it so much I thought (and in one case asked) are you trying to convince me or yourself? In both cases, I was relieved when the relationships ended.
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Re: Have I Told You At Least Once Today That I Love You?
August 11, 2014 at 1:13 am
I'd hate to think it only ended because you both drove each other crazy saying how much you loved each other!
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RE: Have I Told You At Least Once Today That I Love You?
August 11, 2014 at 1:33 am
Yes, words can be so cheap sometimes, I feel that most people wouldn't have a clue what love is, they sleep with each other at a young age and all of a sudden their in love, I say its more lust that they feel, and hence so many divorces happening in the world.
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RE: Have I Told You At Least Once Today That I Love You?
August 11, 2014 at 4:29 am
(August 10, 2014 at 12:28 am)Jenny A Wrote: Does anyone have trouble saying "I love you.?" Can you say it too often and wear it out?
We say it a lot in our little family, both between sisters and sisters and parents and girls, not to mention husband and wife. But my Mom has actually complained of hearing it too often from the girls--wears it out don't you see? --- I don't.
Any thoughts?
To say it to someone risks them not saying it back. That my friend, is a downer.
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