Lonely and a bit depressed

[Losty]

I'd suggest 80mg of Paxil daily but doesn't seem as useful as I had hoped. Running is great. If you have a path that you know well enough that doesn't have any traffic, try running with your eyes closed. Listen to the sound of your own breath and the breeze and your shoes and just listen so closely that you forget you're running. That you get lost in the peace. It's a beautiful feeling really. I know it sounds cheesy but it's like, just the best thing in the world. I'm not sure about friends. I don't really care for afk friends, I just hang out with you guys on here.

[Cato]

It just doesn't curb my loneliness and I crave some sort of real life interaction with others. I'm just wondering if anyone else has ways of dealing with these personal problems. It seems like our society today is so incredibly impersonal. It feels like society is designed so that no one actually has to interact with each other.

Don't like being lonely? Want real life? Don't like how society invokes a sense of interaction? Let me hook you the fuck up...

Seek out your local Navy recruiter. All your problems will be solved.

[psychoslice]

For myself I have never felt the feeling of loneliness, I like seeing a friend here and there but I prefer my own company. I think we need to get to know ourselves first, and also to love yourself, if we cannot do this we can never love another, or truly love ourselves, no matter where we are, alone or with another.

[MusicLovingAtheist]

For myself I have never felt the feeling of loneliness, I like seeing a friend here and there but I prefer my own company. I think we need to get to know ourselves first, and also to love yourself, if we cannot do this we can never love another, or truly love ourselves, no matter where we are, alone or with another.

I find it very difficult to love myself. I feel like every time I look back on something I say or do I just feel bad about it. It's like that Shakespearean blood on the hands that won't come off thing. They keep coming back to haunt me as if each bad memory becomes an apparition inside of my mind. I am constantly being reminded of how I've fell short. When I think of myself there's two sides of the coin. On one side there's the person who I want to be. Smart, good looking, someone who people like, talented. In reality I haven't proven myself capable of accomplishing anything that takes a lot of intelligence. In my eyes I'm average looking. No one wants to talk and no one ever does. I possess no great talents, nothing sets me apart from others. I feel like I myself am just a material object. Life is valuable to me, but my body and my mind feel like they're just low functioning pieces of crap and there is nothing in the world that could change that. There's no drugs for that I can take, there's nothing anyone can say that can change that.

[psychoslice]

For myself I have never felt the feeling of loneliness, I like seeing a friend here and there but I prefer my own company. I think we need to get to know ourselves first, and also to love yourself, if we cannot do this we can never love another, or truly love ourselves, no matter where we are, alone or with another.

I find it very difficult to love myself. I feel like every time I look back on something I say or do I just feel bad about it. It's like that Shakespearean blood on the hands that won't come off thing. They keep coming back to haunt me as if each bad memory becomes an apparition inside of my mind. I am constantly being reminded of how I've fell short. When I think of myself there's two sides of the coin. On one side there's the person who I want to be. Smart, good looking, someone who people like, talented. In reality I haven't proven myself capable of accomplishing anything that takes a lot of intelligence. In my eyes I'm average looking. No one wants to talk and no one ever does. I possess no great talents, nothing sets me apart from others. I feel like I myself am just a material object. Life is valuable to me, but my body and my mind feel like they're just low functioning pieces of crap and there is nothing in the world that could change that. There's no drugs for that I can take, there's nothing anyone can say that can change that.

I myself have schizophrenia, I felt like you for years before I was diagnosed. Now medicated I have a much better life quality, there is nothing wrong with medication, especially with clinical depression and psychotic problems.

You are probably feeling guilty for some reason, and have a low self-esteem. Try not to go through your life worrying about what other people think of you, no one is perfect no matter who they are. A great intelligence, doesn't really mean anything, its what you yourself believe about yourself. Most people want to tear others around them down to their level, be yourself, don't try to be something your not, you are unique, there is no other like you in this whole universe.

Try to get to know yourself better, for you are the only person on this planet that truly knows who you are, be yourself and don't let anyone use you as a doormat. This whole planet is full of neurotic creatures called humans, try to realize that and have compassion for all those people, and not forgetting yourself. Now get of your arss and start living, sorry only joking.

[The Grand Nudger]

Allow nature to embrace you - you're part of it.

Works for me, I like to lay in the rows and grow roots. I get drunk and talk shit to the squash., you know, completely sane stuff. Call them dicks for judging me, mention that they've been putting on weight and really ought to take care of themselves a little better - how much they remind me of their mother......really put em in their place, thus affirming my own.


MLA, ever actually counted how many people you run across in a day?

It's like that Shakespearean blood on the hands that won't come off thing. They keep coming back to haunt me as if each bad memory becomes an apparition inside of my mind. I am constantly being reminded of how I've fell short.

As am I, as are many of us. Some of us even have -actual- blood on our hands, not miasma or metaphor. You can ruck it Joe, I promise you that. We all reach and fall short. Every single one of us. I'm not sure that forgetting that would actually be all that good of an idea. If you can't forget about something you've done..perhaps that just means you aren't the kind of douche who does something horrid and then immediately forgets about it, as though it never happened? I still agonize over things I said to some poor girl 20 years ago...because I was a dick, and I realize that now, eh?

When I think of myself there's two sides of the coin. On one side there's the person who I want to be. Smart, good looking, someone who people like, talented.

Right, I'd like to look like Brad Pitt, fuck like Don Juan, make friends like Mr Rodgers, put beauty on canvass every sunday at 10am like Bob mothafuckin Ross and sci swagger like NDT.......... but it aint happening for me either. That's okay though, isn't it? Having "the total package" however we conceive of it, that's just fantasy.

I just wanted to tell you that I also have those experiences.

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[SteelCurtain]

MLA, I came to a brand new city as a 27 year old person. I knew not a single adult in that city aside from my parents, who lived nearby. Finding friends as an adult is one of the most difficult things I've ever had to do. I was so worried about my social life. I thought about it every day, it was a really big issue for me.

So I went to work, I did things around town. I realized that it took time. Some of the pressure to make friends went away. I talked to people at work. I started volunteering in my community with the dog rescue, because that is something important to me. I take the opportunity to socialize with people every chance I get. Every chance. Down to having a conversation with Bernice who makes my sub at Publix every Wednesday, or chatting with Tarik, the owner of my local beer shop. I feel connected.

Lastly, in order to expand my social network, I joined some meetup groups. Nashville Atheists, Nashville Ice Breakers, Nashville Socialites. I go bowling every now and again. I do Karaoke. I take Tanner on a hike with Nashville Outdoors.

Being young and lonely is a terrible place to be. I truly empathize with you. But you have to advocate for yourself. You have to motivate yourself. Make a list of the things you enjoy. There might be a music related meetup group. I'm glad you are giving the Secular group a chance. Tell people there that your goal is to meet people! People respond really well to that. Bottom line is that you gotta get out there. Take risks, be vulnerable. It's worth it.

[The Grand Nudger]

Bowling...shit you must have been desperate....

[SteelCurtain]

Bowling...shit you must have been desperate....

Lol. "Bowling with the Heathens" in south Nashville. A lot less bowling happens than you might think.

[Zidneya]

You think that's depressed?
No offense pal but take a look at this:
http://atheistforums.org/thread-26183.html
That is depressed. What the created of that thread wouldn't give to be you. Believe me you're more lucky that you think.