"You wouldn't say that to my face" OP/ED

[Brian37]

This OP/ED IS NOT aimed at anyone here on this board, this is in response to something I have seen all my life and it pisses me off way more than getting pissed off. "You wouldn't say that to my face" or "I'll kick your ass" in response to an insult. Is when you are an adult schoolyard bullshit.

Ok let me flat out say that line is not a label thing, it is not owned by atheists, Christians, Muslims, Jews ect ect ect. It is unfortunately a stupid fucking line that should be left back at the schoolyard. 

As much as I blaspheme and cuss I really do get sick, even when atheist pull that crap, of thinking because someone offended you have the right to respond back with a threat. NO YOU DO NOT, respond back yes, but if you are not in high school or grade school, you don't use childish responses like that. 

I was bullied as a kid, and of course as an adult I still get called names even from other atheists. But I never respond with "I'm going to kick your ass". No, you get in my face, I either respond with a "fuck you", or I simply ignore you. I DO understand no one likes to get picked on. But that does not entitle anyone to respond to getting picked on to making threats or implying threats.

Part of the civil west is getting offended, and the other part of that is also the common law of not making threats or responding to getting offended with threats. 

[robvalue]

I try hard not to say anything online to someone which I wouldn't be prepared to say directly to their face.

And agreed, threats are never acceptable.

[Brian37]

I try hard not to say anything online to someone which I wouldn't be prepared to say directly to their face.

And agreed, threats are never acceptable.

No see that is just it, it still should not matter what someone says to your face, you can understand the emotional reaction, to being insulted, but unless you are being bullied and or oppressed, in the west, the adult thing to do is leave it at words and or walk away. 

[robvalue]

Sure, if someone is getting all worked up with me I leave them to it. I almost never get angry, unless someone is actively doing harm.

It's weird trying to figure out "how" people are talking on the forum. My posts should (hopefully) be interpreted in a calm voice, that is how they are intended. Sometimes I feel people are talking calmly on here, sometimes I'm imagining them frothing at the mouth and yelling. But I can never be sure.

[Brian37]

I get in the moment when someone is getting physical and you have no choice because you are defending yourself. Having been bullied, I actually get more pissed sometimes at the left and their good intent. It really is as simple as accepting the imperfect world we live in. If I got to arrest or beat up or murder every single person who called me a name in my life, well, that would be a lot of dead bodies. But no, having been bullied, I grew up and now understand there is a huge difference between captive and getting offended. In the real world, when you are out of school there is just no pragmatic way to force others never to offend you. You make the request, you respond back with your own voice, or you walk away. That is what adults should do.

[robvalue]

Same here, I got bullied relentlessly all the way through school.

[Polaris]

Let's just say that some members say stuff here that would get them killed if they walked in the wrong neighborhood, like say Compton.

[Minimalist]

[KUSA]

A dipshit and his lackey tried to bully me once. I beat the fuck out of the lackey on the school bus.

The dipshit had failed several grades and was much larger than me. I got a couple of buddies and we beat that motherfucker unconscious, literally. I never had a problem with either of them after that.

I've never been a bully but I've never been a pussy that tolerates them either.

I never say anything online that I wouldn't say to someone's face. It's too easy for someone to trace your ip, track you down, and kill you.

If you think you live in a world where you can say anything to anybody you better have a fortified place to live and a security team to guard you.

[Thumpalumpacus]

This OP/ED IS NOT aimed at anyone here on this board, this is in response to something I have seen all my life and it pisses me off way more than getting pissed off. "You wouldn't say that to my face" or "I'll kick your ass" in response to an insult. Is when you are an adult schoolyard bullshit.

Ok let me flat out say that line is not a label thing, it is not owned by atheists, Christians, Muslims, Jews ect ect ect. It is unfortunately a stupid fucking line that should be left back at the schoolyard. 

As much as I blaspheme and cuss I really do get sick, even when atheist pull that crap, of thinking because someone offended you have the right to respond back with a threat. NO YOU DO NOT, respond back yes, but if you are not in high school or grade school, you don't use childish responses like that. 

I was bullied as a kid, and of course as an adult I still get called names even from other atheists. But I never respond with "I'm going to kick your ass". No, you get in my face, I either respond with a "fuck you", or I simply ignore you. I DO understand no one likes to get picked on. But that does not entitle anyone to respond to getting picked on to making threats or implying threats.

Part of the civil west is getting offended, and the other part of that is also the common law of not making threats or responding to getting offended with threats. 

Honestly, I've seen people type shit online they wouldn't say to anyone's face. No one in their right mind would call my son a "bastard" to my face, yet it's happened online.

It's not about me being Billy Badass with A Stick when I reply, "That's something you'd never say to my face" -- it's pointing out the essential cowardice of someone who'd gladhand me in real life as he shitposts about my boy.

Me, I say carry yourself online as you do in life.  And yes, that means that I am sometimes an asshole. It also means I don't take shit from folks. Don't like it? Call your therapist.