Etiquette ?!?!?!?!?

[Chas]

NTRN?  

Not real names?

[Alex K]

Did the couple strongly demand that it be moved, or was it done more or less automatically to accomodate them?

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Also! I would have put money on you being, like, 25-35!

Where could you possibly have gotten that impression! I was betting on 12

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NTRN?  

Not real names?

Not Their Real Names?

[BrianSoddingBoru4]

  Don't ostracize family members without a conversation first - for all the rest of you know, they had a perfectly valid excuse for not attending and for not informing you (not saying that they did have such an excuse, it's just a point you should consider).  Has anyone bothered to ask why they didn't attend, or didn't inform you that they didn't attend, or why they didn't apologize afterwards?

True story which may shed some light.  I have a cousin still in NI who's a farrier.   Some years gone, his only sister was married and Dennis (HRN) didn't show - no calls, no explanations, nothing.  Virtually everyone at wedding - not to mention the reception - had nothing but bad words about  Dennis.

As it fell out, Dennis had been kicked in the throat by a horse he was working with and lay in a coma for four days.  The hospital made attempts to contact his immediate family, but they were all at the wedding and couldn't be reached.

Boru

[Nope]

I thought Vorlon was in his mid twenties also.

Tell the offending couple that they hurt your feelings by not showing up. That would make them feel awkward and they would have to explain what happened.

[vorlon13]

Appreciate the help here.  

And yes, the big 6-0 is in the headlights for me.  (EGAD !!!!!)

Of D & B, D is the one related to us, B is the spouse married into our family.  I think the party brouhaha 'might' be the final thing in quite a number of 'ruffled feather' situations over the years, and they are usually ascribed to B.  I haven't had too many interactions with B over the years other than when he wanted to borrow something.  To my knowledge, D & B haven't been very gregarious over the years, and making a big deal out of the original party date was pretty unusual, to my mind, it was pretty unusual for them to profess a strong preference to attend something.  They've been iffy about attending 'second tier' family events, birthday parties, graduations, etc, but they do hit funerals, that being the only time besides gas station and grocery stores I encounter them.

We have some other cousins and descendants that have made clear preferences in regards to their spouses families as being where they want to be, and that's fine.  They get per forma invites to stuff and no showing isn't a big deal, and for the most part, they don't live locally. B & D, OTOH, the reunion party was 4 miles from their house.  

LOL, I don't know how they feel about cousin Amanda.