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RE: I sorta feel like I didn't live up to my Dad's expecatations
January 2, 2017 at 2:05 pm
Thank you for sharing your story 
I know how you feel. Nothing I did was ever good enough for my father. In the end you have to just do what's right for you, and anyone who is worthy of you will support you.
Certainly no one is "perfect", and it's highly subjective anyway. Some people are just very good at keeping up appearances. I think it's more important to be honest, at least with those closest to you.
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RE: I sorta feel like I didn't live up to my Dad's expecatations
January 2, 2017 at 4:12 pm
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@OP
My uneducated guess is that he most likely wishes for you to look and act like that because it would elevate his status in the society he moves in.
The fool hath said in his heart, There is a God. They are corrupt, they have done abominable works, there is none that doeth good.
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RE: I sorta feel like I didn't live up to my Dad's expecatations
January 2, 2017 at 4:18 pm
I was never "good enough" for my dad. The truth, though, is that he was never good enough for me.
Thanks for sharing, OP
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RE: I sorta feel like I didn't live up to my Dad's expecatations
January 2, 2017 at 4:29 pm
Does this help? :
quite a few Mormons when they falter in their faith move on to atheism, so you're definitely not unique in your experience
I (and maybe quite few others here) upon close examination of the (historically amazingly variable) tenets of Mormonism find it to be an especially false religion
Using nothing more than materials in the Mormon archives or that have been publically released by the Mormon hierarchy, it is absurdly easy to demonstrate Joseph Smith had tremendous difficulty in keeping all his lies straight
There are definite indications that members of the current Mormon hierarchy are quite aware that maintaining any sort of façade they are administering a 'true' religion is impossible (if they ever allowed themselves to be pressed upon the issue), and among that evidence is the otherwise inexplicable denial of permission to review many historical journals, records, publications, diaries, and letters held in their archives. You can look at anything you want in the archive IOW, as long as it has been thoroughly and rigorously vetted to insure it contains absolutely nothing that might confirm or even suggest there has ever been any hint at any contradiction, or controversy, or change in official church dogma since the church was founded.
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RE: I sorta feel like I didn't live up to my Dad's expecatations
January 2, 2017 at 4:30 pm
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I could never -be- "good enough" for my dad. He wasn't even my dad. The idea of being "good enough" is anathema to what he was all about. If you truly found yourself in a place where you were "good enough".....he'd tell you that you must have set the metrics too low.
So here I am, forever reaching. Good shit.
I am the Infantry. I am my country’s strength in war, her deterrent in peace. I am the heart of the fight… wherever, whenever. I carry America’s faith and honor against her enemies. I am the Queen of Battle. I am what my country expects me to be, the best trained Soldier in the world. In the race for victory, I am swift, determined, and courageous, armed with a fierce will to win. Never will I fail my country’s trust. Always I fight on…through the foe, to the objective, to triumph overall. If necessary, I will fight to my death. By my steadfast courage, I have won more than 200 years of freedom. I yield not to weakness, to hunger, to cowardice, to fatigue, to superior odds, For I am mentally tough, physically strong, and morally straight. I forsake not, my country, my mission, my comrades, my sacred duty. I am relentless. I am always there, now and forever. I AM THE INFANTRY! FOLLOW ME!
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RE: I sorta feel like I didn't live up to my Dad's expecatations
January 2, 2017 at 5:09 pm
Your own happiness comes above everyone else's. Of course I'm not saying be a dick, there are always polite ways of disagreeing with people but you don't have to impress anyone but yourself when it comes down to it.
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RE: I sorta feel like I didn't live up to my Dad's expecatations
January 2, 2017 at 5:32 pm
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(January 2, 2017 at 4:18 pm)The_Empress Wrote: I was never "good enough" for my dad. The truth, though, is that he was never good enough for me.
Thanks for sharing, OP
I always felt that my own dad felt that way -- that anything I did would fall short. But I don't think he fell short of my own expectations, just his own.
(January 2, 2017 at 4:30 pm)Rhythm Wrote: I could never -be- "good enough" for my dad. He wasn't even my dad. The idea of being "good enough" is anathema to what he was all about. If you truly found yourself in a place where you were "good enough".....he'd tell you that you must have set the metrics too low.
So here I am, forever reaching. Good shit.
Been there, done that, got the ass-chewings.
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RE: I sorta feel like I didn't live up to my Dad's expecatations
January 2, 2017 at 6:12 pm
Meh, Dad didn't exactly meet my expectations either, so I suppose we're even on that score.
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RE: I sorta feel like I didn't live up to my Dad's expecatations
January 2, 2017 at 6:47 pm
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I got lucky, dad kicked it before he could lessen himself in my eyes. Went out a straight up baller.
I am the Infantry. I am my country’s strength in war, her deterrent in peace. I am the heart of the fight… wherever, whenever. I carry America’s faith and honor against her enemies. I am the Queen of Battle. I am what my country expects me to be, the best trained Soldier in the world. In the race for victory, I am swift, determined, and courageous, armed with a fierce will to win. Never will I fail my country’s trust. Always I fight on…through the foe, to the objective, to triumph overall. If necessary, I will fight to my death. By my steadfast courage, I have won more than 200 years of freedom. I yield not to weakness, to hunger, to cowardice, to fatigue, to superior odds, For I am mentally tough, physically strong, and morally straight. I forsake not, my country, my mission, my comrades, my sacred duty. I am relentless. I am always there, now and forever. I AM THE INFANTRY! FOLLOW ME!
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RE: I sorta feel like I didn't live up to my Dad's expecatations
January 2, 2017 at 8:11 pm
Yeah, Dad and I made our peace about ten years before he died, over a couple of beers, shooting pool.
I still sometimes have that feeling that I'm chasing his approval, but then I remind myself that even if he were here it wouldn't matter.
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