What level of dominance/submission do you expect from a romantic partner?

[The Valkyrie]

Ha ha.  But peni aren't the size of pinkies.  'Fully charged' they should be larger than the girth of all four fingers and thumb combined and as long as the from the tip of your longest finger to your wrist.  I think most probably are anyhow.

That's YOUR story...

[paulpablo]

I'm not a big dom/sub fan. I haven't tried it, but sometimes you just know something isn't for you. It's not really the dom/sub thing that gets me, it's that the second you assign roles is the moment I don't believe it. I know it's for safety and consensus, but then it's ruined by being sort of corny. Better to just leave it alone and let things develop naturally.

And just to clarify I am asking the question relating to naturally developing dominance or submission OR clearly stated roles.

To me it doesn't feel natural to order someone's food for them or to constantly have them under surveilence and that type of thing.

It took me a while to get used to the idea of deciding everything while going out with a woman but I like the challenge these days of being in control to that extent.

When I say what level of dominance or submission do you expect I think most people have a vague idea about their level of comfort when it comes to being controlled or being in control.

[The Valkyrie]

In all honesty I've always been a believer in full equality in a relationship.

I DO tend to dominate a little (it's my personality type, after all), but I try to keep it in check.

[paulpablo]

In all honesty I've always been a believer in full equality in a relationship.

I DO tend to dominate a little (it's my personality type, after all), but I try to keep it in check.

So let me just put a few examples forward and answer them if you want.

When you go out with a romantic partner are you comfortable choosing where to go or do you tend to like that being chosen?

If you go to watch a movie do you take the lead and choose where to sit?

Are you usually the one who's approached the other person first/made the initial move towards the person you're romantically involved with?

[vorlon13]

[Athene]

So let me just put a few examples forward and answer them if you want.

I know these questions weren't directed towards me, but I'd like to take a stab at answering.

When you go out with a romantic partner are you comfortable choosing where to go or do you tend to like that being chosen?

It depends. 
I can't imagine anyone wanting to be being in a relationship where one person is tagged the Permanent Decider of All Things Entertaining and Fun.

If you go to watch a movie do you take the lead and choose where to sit?

Who cares? Don't most people prefer the middle to back rows anyway?

"How 'bout here?"
"Yeah, this is good."
"Okay."

No one's really taking the lead in that scenario, are they? They're just agreeing where to sit.

Are you usually the one who's approached the other person first/made the initial move towards the person you're romantically involved with?

In the past, if I suspected there was genuine interest on a fella's part, I would move things along by engaging in conversation; and perhaps do a bit of flirting.

"Oh, I love your shoes. Are those leather?" OR...
"Tell me everything you know about small engines. And start from the beginning."

You know, that sort of thang.

[The Grand Nudger]

I prefer a good brawl.  Laying sexuality aside...I prefer partners who have strong opinions that have long since passed any acid test which I could apply.  My wife and I will -never- see eye to eye on a great many things, and if she abandoned her positions on those issues when challenged it would lessen her, in my eyes.  

There is no submissive or dominant position in our relationship. We're equals, and both equally willing to throw a hook in bed or outside of it. No other type of relationship has ever worked for either of us...and we both have a laundry list of failure behind us to attest to that.

[Regina]

With sex, I have a mix of submissive and dominant moods. Really depends how I'm feeling. Play fighting in bed to decide who is going to dominate is fun too. In general outside of sex, I tend to be much more submissive and like to be taken care of, although not to the point of literally being possessed, that's weird to me.

Tbh I think there's just a different dynamic with gays though, since you don't have that gender power dynamic straight couples have, it could just go either way.

[energizer bunny]

Nobody orders my food, picks out my clothes, or bosses me around.  Dominance in the bedroom, great. Outside the bedroom, no, no. I don't really have an expectations of dominance or submissive. I do prefer women with a more dominant personality than me, as i'm more the laid back, quiet, nonchalant type.

[Amarok]

Out of bed  egalitarianism reigns

In bed .Or in the kitchen. Or living room.  Or in the hot tub .Or the one time in the park . I'm in charge. And the ropes and other such implements have a turn over rate