Here's my story, sad but true

[HappySkeptic]

What's with the homophpbic and transphobic slurs and language?
I thought that sort of stuff was against the rules on this site?

One can be homophpbic and transphobic all you want on here (although it will get a lot of pushback).  It is dehumanizing slurs that are not allowed.  I don't see any in this thread.  There was a separate thread discussing what is and isn't a slur.  I don't want to see another 10 pages on that.

[FrustratedFool]

******* is widely considered a transphobic slur.

I didn't think homophobia and transphobia were allowed here, but I may have read the rules incorrectly.

I've spent years on open forums that allowed hatespeech and slurs etc, and I'm come to believe it causes more harm than good.

Oh well.  I may not hang around.  Such is life.

[HappySkeptic]

Hate speech and slurs are not allowed.  However, I think slurs are something obvious, and not the same thing as a term that isn't now politically correct.  In porn circles (which is what was being discussed), ******* used to be a perfectly fine term.

People who engage in hate speech and slurs tend to continue it, even after warnings, and eventually get banned.

[BrianSoddingBoru4]

Administrator Notice
Speedbump: The offending words have been removed (much thanks to FF for calling attention to this!).

Going forward, you may take it as read that trans slurs are included in our rule against hate speech.

Boru

[WinterHold]

What's with the homophpbic and transphobic slurs and language?
I thought that sort of stuff was against the rules on this site?

They are not slurs; but explicit descriptions in my opinion.

Actually; these are keywords in the pornography world; they refer to a certain type of males with homosexuals tendencies.

You begin the journey with "crossdressing", then get promoted until you become a "s*****";"; the dream of every crossdresser is to be a "s*****"; then surgeries and castration are decided by the person.

It's a dark tunnel of self-harm. It's the only legal self-harm methodology in my opinion.
But these are not slurs at all. These are keywords in pornsites and porn culture.

As for the cause of that makes a person goes into this path, I pinpointed childhood events -especially during pre-teen period- to be the cause.

Combined with forcing boys into boy-only-schools (like in Saudi Arabia), and preventing the boys from experiencing a female touch during puberty; so all what's in their minds during puberty is "other boys".

Conclusion: these aren't slurs.
But that's a personal opinion; next time I will not use the words or block them all together.

[BrianSoddingBoru4]

What's with the homophpbic and transphobic slurs and language?
I thought that sort of stuff was against the rules on this site?

They are not slurs; but explicit descriptions in my opinion.

Actually; these are keywords in the pornography world; they refer to a certain type of males with homosexuals tendencies.

You begin the journey with "crossdressing", then get promoted until you become a "s*****";"; the dream of every crossdresser is to be a "s*****"; then surgeries and castration are decided by the person.

It's a dark tunnel of self-harm. It's the only legal self-harm methodology in my opinion.
But these are not slurs at all. These are keywords in pornsites and porn culture.

As for the cause of that makes a person goes into this path, I pinpointed childhood events -especially during pre-teen period- to be the cause.

Combined with forcing boys into boy-only-schools (like in Saudi Arabia), and preventing the boys from experiencing a female touch during puberty; so all what's in their minds during puberty is "other boys".

Conclusion: these aren't slurs.
But that's a personal opinion; next time I will not use the words or block them all together.

I’m glad you’ve agreed not to use these particular words again. However, your conclusion is wrong - these two words are widely regarded as slurs, so your opinion, quite frankly, counts for nothing.

It really don’t matter if they’re keywords in the porn industry. So is ‘n*gger dick’. Does that mean ‘n*gger’ isn’t a slur?

Boru

[BrianSoddingBoru4]

Re the OP:

Winter, has it occurred to you that maybe Sue was running around because the narrator was n’t treating her right. Maybe he was neglectful, boring, or even abusive. Why is the blame automatically on Sue?

Boru

[WinterHold]

What's with the homophpbic and transphobic slurs and language?
I thought that sort of stuff was against the rules on this site?

One can be homophpbic and transphobic all you want on here (although it will get a lot of pushback).  It is dehumanizing slurs that are not allowed.  I don't see any in this thread.  There was a separate thread discussing what is and isn't a slur.  I don't want to see another 10 pages on that.

The whole idea is that a person like me, is objecting to self harm being legal.
We saw other forms of self harm that doesn't include sexual organs:






Did you realize that the problem is way bigger than sex change.
Every form of self harm has a cause rooted deep in the society's culture; the problem is cultural and needs a cultural reform. The definition of "freedom" is compromised if it leads to such self harm.

It's sickening to imagine that a person will take away their site, sexual organs or other senses,


I'm discussing how female ego -such as the song "Runaround Sue" leads men to dark paths, that can end in self harm.

[BrianSoddingBoru4]

One can be homophpbic and transphobic all you want on here (although it will get a lot of pushback).  It is dehumanizing slurs that are not allowed.  I don't see any in this thread.  There was a separate thread discussing what is and isn't a slur.  I don't want to see another 10 pages on that.

The whole idea is that a person like me, is objecting to self harm being legal.
We saw other forms of self harm that doesn't include sexual organs:






Did you realize that the problem is way bigger than sex change.
Every form of self harm has a cause rooted deep in the society's culture; the problem is cultural and needs a cultural reform. The definition of "freedom" is compromised if it leads to such self harm.

It's sickening to imagine that a person will take away their site, sexual organs or other senses,


I'm discussing how female ego -such as the song "Runaround Sue" leads men to dark paths, that can end in self harm.

You feel that way because your own culture rejects self-harm in favour of causing grievous harm to others.

Dafuq does a woman blinding herself have to do with gender reassignment surgery?

Boru

[FrustratedFool]

@WinterHold
That's an unusual psychological perspective on crossdressing and transgender folk etc. It doesn't match either the research I've encountered, the statements by medical institutions, or my lived experience.

So, can I quiz you more on your theory in reference to my personal experiences?

Why, according to your beliefs, am I a non-binary transvestite?