My dad hates me/is kicking me out

[Aegrus]

I know life gets better I've heard that same cliche, sorry for being rude I respect your post greatly Cinjin and thank you, please bare with my stupid thoughts I understand they're silly I just feel like shit right now so that's what I'm putting out there .

I sadly don't have a vehicle, like I said I've been working part-time this whole time due to college never had the ability to afford a vehicle especially considering the expenses of car insurance, like I said I've been trying to move into full-time at my work but I have no idea how long I can wait on it, especially with this looming concept of getting thrown out lingering behind me throughout this.

I agree I shouldn't be making excuses I'm thinking of that right as I write a lot of this shit ironically :S, but right now thats all I can seem to think of that its near impossible for me to get out of this rut.

As for my location I'm from the United Kingdom, East Sussex, Hastings. Don't know of any Athiest groups, in fact never known any athiests my whole life.

Sorry for the cliche.

[DraxQuin]

Sorry Aegrus, your post helped a lot thank you, hearing someone who can emphasize with me, almost with identical thoughts, well its just amazing and heartwarming thank you so much. Now though I'm still stuck in the present reality of impending kick-out-of-house scenario completely clueless of what to do.

[Cinjin]

As for my location I'm from the United Kingdom, East Sussex, Hastings. Don't know of any Athiest groups, in fact never known any athiests my whole life.

Well, while you still have a roof over your head, spend some time finding athiests. I'm told the UK is full of them (unlike my country) so I see no reason why you shouldn't be able to reach out to other atheists. Find the right group, you just might find someone willing to put you up for a spell. Hell, how cool would it be to beat your dad to the punch and move out before he kicked you out!

Also, I wasn't saying that you were making excuses, rather, don't make them. You haven't found friends, try harder. You don't know any atheists, look harder. You can't get more hours? Use your sad story to get your supervisor to give you more. Whatever it takes ... don't make excuses. Nobody wants to help out a young man who is unwilling to help himself. Bust ass to get yourself out of that situation. It won't be easy and I'm certainly not saying it will be. All I'm saying is don't spend your days thinking about how awful it is. Spend your days figuring out how to overcome and eventually give your tool of a father the big ole finger.

[Rhizomorph13]

Took me about 2 minutes to find these:

Hastings Humanists
A local group of the British Humanist Association
http://hastingshumanists.blogspot.com/
Flat 1, 4 Magdalen Road, St Leonards on Sea, TN37 6EG
01424440749
Brighton and Hove Humanist Society
An organisation for people with no religious beliefs.
http://homepage.ntlworld.com/robert.stov...anist.html
The Lord Nelson Inn, Trafalgar Street, Brighton, BN1 4ED
01273 695872

I found these groups using this site: http://www.escis.org.uk/Directory/All_areas

I'm not sure if they will be equipped to handle your issues but they would be a good place to start to reach out and maybe get the assistance that you need.

I feel for you, I felt trapped when I was living at home and I managed to stay there 'till I was 23. I now am out on my own; I own my own condo and am gainfully employed at Intel and married to a wonderful woman. I've patched things up with my Christian parents and have a great adult relationship with them even though we totally dissagree on religion. The trick was to become independant and much stronger than my father. It is very hard for a grown man to yell at another grown man when he knows I could kick the fucking shit out of him. Once we sorted out that I wasn't going to be their helpless child anymore, things got much better.

I would suggest that you find a simply physical hobby like juggling or partner dancing. Either of those could help you with social anxiety and help you meet people. I met my wife through Swing Dancing.

Good luck.

[zip_ster]

Thanks for posting this. it pisses me the hell off to read so many accounts of people going through this, but you are not alone, not by a long shot. And if more of us get pissed off and vocal, maybe the next generation will be the one to give motherfucking religion a fat California howdy!

[Napoléon]

http://suicidehotlines.com/

You're a cold motherfucker man.


To the OP. I can't really give you any advice, just know that the guy you call your dad is a complete dick and is certainly NOT like the rest of the world.

[The Grand Nudger]

What else was I going to post? I would have felt like shit if he never posted again and I hadn't just left it at that. I'm not really qualified to dispense advice in suicide situations. You never know whether or not the things you say will strike a chord unknown to you, exacerbating the situation. It's good to see that he stuck around.

[DraxQuin]

What else was I going to post? I would have felt like shit if he never posted again and I hadn't just left it at that. I'm not really qualified to dispense advice in suicide situations. You never know whether or not the things you say will strike a chord unknown to you, exacerbating the situation. It's good to see that he stuck around.

Don't worry it actually made me laugh and I needed that at the time, like I said I wasn't thinking straight at the time I apologize for the silly notions of committing suicide.

[Minimalist]

the guy you call your dad is a complete dick and is certainly NOT like the rest of the world.

When did you become such an optimist, Nappy?

[The Grand Nudger]

Well you'd better fucking apologize man because that shit is ridiculous! It's rough as hell out here, we need all the hands we can get.