Is there such a thing as choice ?

[Shinylight]

Shiny,

I figured that was the answer I would receive but part of that reaction is predicated on the idea that the person had a choice to be nice to you. For me, if I feel that someone truely has no choice to act a certain way I can find no fault in their action so it doesn't effect as much of an emotional response in me. If I had a true belief that people are simply doing what they must then I would certainly be less emotional about what they are doing. I actually use that idea to reframe what is going on around me all the time.

Someone being an arse, whether it has already been determined or not, is still upsetting and thus I feel the emotional response will be unaffected.