RE: Unloading
November 17, 2016 at 4:47 pm
(This post was last modified: November 17, 2016 at 5:05 pm by Shell B.)
I had no idea you lost your baby, CL. I'm at a complete fucking loss. That's horrible. I don't pray, but I know people who do, so I'll pass the word along.
Ahhh, first you said you didn't want a baby anymore. Then, you said it was because of fear. We honestly barely know each other, but I have a lot of experience in the trying to have a baby, baby isn't happening, convince myself I don't want baby department, so I'm going to dare to give you my opinion. My advice (please feel free to tell me to go fuck myself. I won't be offended) is not to let fear make your decisions for you. Definitely give yourself time, but ultimately do what you want, not what your anxiety wants. (That's kind of a general rule for people with anxiety. You can thank my therapists.) As for your age, settle down, sweetie. You're very young. My grandmother was in the second half of her forties when she had her final two children. Both sharp as tacks. I know it's anecdotal, but loads of women have healthy babies at much more advanced ages than yours.
You need more time, I think. Don't rob yourself of the time you need to heal because you think you're running out of time.
All the best, in all sincerity.
Update: It's been sent down the family prayer vine. I don't know where it goes from there, but I'm sure they know what they're doing.
Quote:I would just say "forget it". Not because I don't want a baby, but because of the fear.
Ahhh, first you said you didn't want a baby anymore. Then, you said it was because of fear. We honestly barely know each other, but I have a lot of experience in the trying to have a baby, baby isn't happening, convince myself I don't want baby department, so I'm going to dare to give you my opinion. My advice (please feel free to tell me to go fuck myself. I won't be offended) is not to let fear make your decisions for you. Definitely give yourself time, but ultimately do what you want, not what your anxiety wants. (That's kind of a general rule for people with anxiety. You can thank my therapists.) As for your age, settle down, sweetie. You're very young. My grandmother was in the second half of her forties when she had her final two children. Both sharp as tacks. I know it's anecdotal, but loads of women have healthy babies at much more advanced ages than yours.
You need more time, I think. Don't rob yourself of the time you need to heal because you think you're running out of time.
All the best, in all sincerity.
Update: It's been sent down the family prayer vine. I don't know where it goes from there, but I'm sure they know what they're doing.
