[Serious] Please convince me gender is binary

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- For Tack  

Individuals don't determine gender constructs.  They are supplied to us from before we can speak or remember that we couldn't speak.  They form a part of who we are and what we implicitly take to be true, and because of this...we find folks like Benny asserting the things in his example..and we find gender dysphoria..and we find non normativism.  They surprise us, for lack of a better word.

Now, this

I don’t think something as personal as self-identity needs a societal judgement or classification

I appreciate that you think that..but since legal protection hinges on these classifications ...and we're talking about a group that finds themselves ostracized, marginalized,  disenfranchised and even brutalized by default of normative convention..until you can convince the nasty normativists to stop being assholes....yes, classifications will be required.  Trans bans and bathroom laws and grab checks neatly lay out why, even if in a perfect world we shouldn't be having this convo..in this imperfect world it needs to be addressed.

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OK so to regurgitate what I've learned:

1. Sex- is gonadal and binary Male female
2. Gender Identity- Male or Female (might develop later and be different than gonads) is bimodal and highly subjective and personal
3. Gender expression - What you present yourself as -IDC
4. sexual attraction - IDC
5. transgender people- gender identify as male or female typically
6. non-binary gender characteristics- Still haven't got an answer from shell on this but I can only assume it's a combination of gender identity and expression?

7. Gender construct- From what Gae tells me this is how others (society and lawmakers) view your gender identity)

OK so a couple notes on gender constructs. Our gender identity is part of our internal gender construct which can be based on our natural and nurtured world. It is also subject to internal belief constructs and definitions which can change over time.
So going with that I understand where societal and peer pressure to conform to someone else's definition of what "a man/woman" is. I see the need for classifications for laws and protections. My problem still lies in not accepting a non binary definition. You may feel you're less of a guy because of your bows than the jock at the gym. In my eyes you're still both valid guys, with each of you holding different definitions of what it means to be a guy. Both those definitions aren't the same as my definition, but close enough to recognize.
As an example, the three of us look at a patch of grass. I call it green, jock calls it olive and you call it emerald. Now you can whittle me into being the most specific shade of green I could establish and I would probably say fern green reluctantly. My point was that our definitions don't have to match because we all familiarly just use green.

Couldn't society just go with a more clinical definition or are super broad definition for legal status? Something like using phrases like "birth sex", "gonadal gender", "gender expression" or "sexual preference" in their legal jargon to clarify things? Or maybe word it "person accepted is a principal part male/female" or something more jargon-y.