refuting misconceptions:1-women in Islam

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this thread is made for the purpose of removing the misconceptions about Islam. I have recognized that most of the members lack the right information about islam in different aspects that’s because the media is doing a really ugly work especially after 9/11.i will try to clarify those misconceptions as I can and I will try to use the Quran in defending my position so u can b sure that am not preaching or telling lies
this is the second thread I open in a week and am really busy this days at work and am also getting married so if I am late in answering any question don’t worry I will answer as soon as possible
I will start by telling a misconception and explain it in general then I will wait for ur questions in specifications then after we feel that a point is clear we will move to another one(plz if u can put ur comments in a form of a question that will make it easier for me to clarify things and not getting in an argue without an end)

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At first I want to clarify that women and men are equal but they are different not in the way that a man is better than a woman they are different in the way that they complete each other I will try to explain the role of women in Islam in different aspects of life:

1-judgement in sight of Allah:

“O mankind! We created you from a single (pair) of a male and a female, and made you into nations and tribes, that ye may know each other (not that ye may despise (each other). Verily the most honoured of you in the sight of Allah is (he who is) the most righteous of you. And Allah has full knowledge and is well acquainted (with all things)”.(quran 49:13)
“If any do deeds of righteousness, be they male or female and have faith, they will enter Heaven, and not the least injustice will be done to them.”(Quran 4:124)
There is no difference between men and women ragarding how they are judged by Allah

2-woman as a mother:

“And We have enjoined on man (to be good) to his parents: in travail upon travail did his mother bear him, and in years twain was his weaning: (hear the command), "Show gratitude to Me and to thy parents: to Me is (thy final) Goal.”(Quran 31:14)
“We have enjoined on man kindness to his parents: In pain did his mother bear him, and in pain did she give him birth”(Quran 46:15)
There is a lot of verses that show the great position of the the woman as a mother but I think these two verses made my point

3-woman as a wife:

“O ye who believe! Ye are forbidden to inherit women against their will. Nor should ye treat them with harshness, that ye may Take away part of the dower ye have given them,except where they have been guilty of open lewdness; on the contrary live with them on a footing of kindness and equity. If ye take a dislike to them it may be that ye dislike a thing, and Allah brings about through it a great deal of good.”(Quran 4:19)
there is a saying(by muhammed(pbuh)) No 736, 7396. It says that, ‘the most perfect of the believers are those that are best in character and behavior, and those that are best to their family and their wives’.
The man cannot deal with his wife with harshness but in contrary he must be kind with her
“Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has given the one more (strength) than the other, and because they support them from their means”(Quran 4:34)
Its on the man shoulder to protect and provide financial support to his family
If a Woman works, which she does not have to whatever earning she gets, it is absolutely her property She need not spend on the house if she wants to spend it is her free will.and there is no place in the Quran or sunnah that says that woman should not work but she should do her part as a mother even if she is working
Anything other than that the women and men are equal if the Quran didn’t mention that it is the responsibility of one of them.(in Islam cooking and cleaning is the responsibily of both the husband and the wife)


4-when getting married:

-When getting married she has the right to refuse the husband without showing any reasons as she can get divorce also without giving any reason
Ibn Abbas reported that a girl came to the Messenger of Allah, and she reported that her father had forced her to marry without her consent. The Messenger of God gave her the choice...between accepting the marriage or invalidating it the girl said: 'Actually, I accept this marriage, but I wanted to let women know that parents have no right to force a husband on them.'" (Ibn-Majah) [11]
- “And give the women (on marriage) their dower as a free gift; but if they, of their own good pleasure, remit any part of it to you, Take it and enjoy it with right good cheer.”(Quran 4:4)
the woman has no financial resposibility when getting married but in fact she must receive a gift from the husband before marriage according to his abilities and according to the norms of where they live(in egypt its about 7 to 10 thousand dollars) but if she asked for divorce she should give it back
-She have the right to write whatever she wants in the marriage contract ex:if she mentioned that she don’t want her husband to travel outside her country and the husband agreed he will have to take permission after marriage from his wife before travelling or she can get divorced

5-inheritance:

Inheritence is so complicated in islam so that it assure justice to everyone but always the young generation is taking more percentage(wether male or female) sometimes man take more than woman,woman take more than a man,sometimes they are equal. and in some situations the girl gets a share and the man get nothing(if I start explaining different situations it will take a lot of time so u can search it or u can ask me later I will answer it in details)

5-women and law:

-I have searched a lot trying to get differences in islamic law between men and women I found nothing they are always saying when someone. they didn’t even say if that someone is man or woman
-There is only one difference in being a witness if its something financial witness must be 1 man or 2 woman(as financial issues is his resposibility so he will be included in this situations more)
If its something related to women they don’t take men as a witness only women(like if the husband accused his wife of unchastity the female witness invalidate the male witness)

6-covering her body(hijab):

I don’t know why everyone is making a big deal of this if a woman wants to show her body its freedom and if a woman wants to cover u attack her?i never understood this but from the comments I found here in the forums I got that most of u think that they are forced to wear like that and that is so not true
“Let there be no compulsion in religion: Truth stands out clear from Error: whoever rejects evil and believes in Allah hath grasped the most trustworthy hand-hold, that never breaks. And Allah heareth and knoweth all things.”(Quran 2:256)
no one(father,husband,brother or even mother) has the right to force a woman to wear hijab its her choice I live in a muslim country some is wearing hijab and some is not wearing

NB:hijab is not what u see in the tv(the black dress covering face and hands) hijab is covering the body except face and hands by anything (no special cloth) I will explain later about why its prohibited for a woman to show her body but this will take another thread so I will prepare it and explain it later after we finish these points

I tried to make this thread short as I can but I wanted to cover most of the aspects regarding women in I will b waiting for ur questions regarding women in Islam(not only the points I mentioned anything regarding women in islam)