a new atheist and marriage

[Thegoodatheist]

I'm not really clear on what you mean by "traditional" roles . . . that he works and you enjoy cooking and housework? Meh. If that's what makes you a happy, functioning couple, knock yourselves out! To each his/her own.

What is your field of study? Do you plan to work once you've graduated? If so, does that strike you as somehow 'untraditional'? Is it a possible source of friction in your relationship?

Anyway, welcome and congratulations on your engagement.

I suppose what I mean is traditional roles of male and female. The man provides and the woman keeps up the household. 

My field of study I haven't determined. I am taking college slow and just getting a ton of general classes out of the way. 

I am thinking either nutrition or pharmacology. Both of which are fairly different. 

I fully support anyone's choice of way of life. I understand that there are many ways to live, but mine just happens to be what works for me. 

I was just curious if if was common. 

Also my previous christian life didn't create completely my idea on gender roles. I grew up in a house with a father who was from Laos who instilled the idea of set gender roles (and those ideas weren't presented as a go along with God). 

I don't want to tell other people how to live, nor should people tell me how to live. 

I believe everyone should be compassionate about other people's lives.. which includes being tolerate of beliefs even if you disagree. 

I think there's some atheist who are very angry and I am not an angry atheist. I care about people and I care about people being happy. I think if being religious makes you happy that's okay and if not believing is what brings you joy okay. 

People strive to feel like they are right and no one is really right. What works for you might not work for everyone. 

I feel like some people who come off very angry may put people off the message that's presented. If a Christian is telling you you're gonna burn in hell that might not make you want a bible (although you shouldn't want one), but similarly if an atheist is telling a Christian they're stupid that isn't helpful either. 

Opening up an honest and civil dialogue is extremely important!