(September 22, 2021 at 10:06 pm)Angrboda Wrote: One thing that makes me wonder, though, is people can fall out of love even though neither has changed or done anything. If it's really keyed to the other's happiness, why would it wink out like that? Something is amiss.
I don't think it is a matter of "falling" but more of a matter of our human brains re assessing the relationship. I dated my now x for 3 years, we were married for three years before we deforced. Despite it not working out, and as much as it hurt for her to say she didn't want to stay married to me, I absolutely hold no ager or want of revenge. Our divorce took place in 2002.
So of course people change. Even outside love interests, I don't have the same friends today that I had in High School. I didn't have my best friend until High School. But I have not seen him since the mid 90s. My longest, to this day best friend, I met online in 2002, and he passed away in 2018. My current best friend I met in 04 or so.
You are talking about romance. But regardless, the idea that humans are bound to some sort of ideological or religious or economic gang membership is absurd. I am NOT accusing you of that in my response. I am merely saying in life, times change, even in ordinary non conflict life.
Yes people can change their mind about a relationship, be it dating, marriage or even mere friendship. Life is not static.
