(October 13, 2016 at 5:11 pm)Nymphadora Wrote: CIJS
If I wasn't in a mafia game right now, I would be seriously taking a leave of absence. It seems my value here isn't good enough despite this being the second time the same person has attacked me. The first time was bad, but he wasn't even given a time out because - free speech. Clearly, the line has been WAY overstepped this time and quite frankly, I'm tired of the cheap shots that keep getting fired in my direction with no offer of relief in sight. Seeing as nothing is going to change that, why bother sticking around?
I know there are a few who have asked me not to leave this place. But from where I stand, as long as I'm not one of the forum "darlings", my price in asking for some relief remains at a higher cost than I am willing to pay. My feelings and how this has affected me, mean shit here.
Is what I've just said going to piss off some people? Probably. Do I care? Nope. If you're pissed off now, just keep reading.
If the person responsible for this is still being allowed to throw out attacks, days after his "behavior is consistently disruptive and upsetting to active members", then I no longer give a shit about biting my tongue and saying how fucked up I think it all is. Despite the many members who have responded and continue to, with their own upset at what he posted, he still gets to post his vile drivel as if nothing fucking happened. Really? How much more? What's it take to swing a hammer against what is so clearly offensive and UPSETTING to several ACTIVE MEMBERS of these forums?
Hey... I'm all for free speech. But when that free speech turns into an attack on another member here, it's been reported and days later, he is still spewing his hate, something's gotta give. I guess we all know I'm not a favorite or a darling here. So I guess it's me. Despite my love of this place, I will not stick around and watch as nothing gets done. There's enough hate from his drivel to last a lifetime but that won't stop him from posting yet more hate in the future. But, please, continue having fun with that pile of poo. The drama he stirs up obviously means more to you than the member, who has been negatively affected by it.
And I have looked at the ONI rule. That second paragraph is a complete joke. Zero action was taken for the simple reason that the 48 hours "active staff" had to vote, have passed. He's still here posting. Further more, how disturbing is it, that it only takes ONE person to dissent and the offender gets to carry on with no punishment, no matter how offensive, cruel, upsetting and vile he was to an active member.
So supposing that a vote has actually taken place, whomever voted to dissent, gets to also carry on, with the benefit and protection that no one but staff, will ever know they were the one responsible for letting this asshole continue to be hurtful.Bet it would be much different if they were the one being attacked.
Naturally, posts can be made in defense of those in power, saying I have no idea of what I'm talking about and how dare I assume to know what goes on behind closed doors. And they would be right. I don't. All I do know is that the offender, once again, gets off scott free with no repercussions whatsoever. He gets to continue to post his drivel, upsetting members left and right, over and over and over and over again. I guess it will stop when he finally does it to someone who has worth or value here.
But then again, regular members aren't privy to what goes on behind closed doors so we could be told anything and we'd have no choice but to believe what is said. So, there's that. So, yes, I'm going to speculate the fuck out of this situation because it is affecting me personally and I am tired of being violated by the same person with not a fuck being given by those who could very well do something to end it.
Suggesting that I put him on ignore also does nothing when the entire ignore feature is flawed to begin with. In order to have the actual benefit of peace from using the ignore feature, the options to view posts by the person being ignored, shouldn't even be an option. It should be like they do not exist for the person ignoring them. None of their posts should be seen. Period. I don't want to have to see an option to read the ignored persons posts every single time I open up a page in a thread they have posted in. No. I don't want to see it at all. That person is toxic, and therefore a big reason to why they are being ignored in the first place. And how does it help to ignore said person, if they are constantly being quoted by members whom aren't on ignore? So either way, I'm still being subjected to viewing the vileness that is the ignored person.
As angry as people have gotten over what he has posted, it wasn't enough. You all keep having fun with that drama. I'm not stupid. I clearly see where I stand with the folks who run things here. As I said before, I'm not one of the forum darlings. I never was. I'll be withdrawing my financial support of this place. Why should I continue to help financially support a forum who doesn't do the right thing by it's members when one of them has been clearly violated by another member. Twice now. Granted, it wasn't much, but I can put that $120.00 a year on something much more valuable to me: my children.
You're allowing him to get to you; allowing him to have an effect on your life and choices, Judi. Don't do it; it's EXACTLY what he would want.
Nay_Sayer: “Nothing is impossible if you dream big enough, or in this case, nothing is impossible if you use a barrel of KY Jelly and a miniature horse.”
Wiser words were never spoken.
Wiser words were never spoken.
