(October 14, 2016 at 4:52 am)robvalue Wrote:(October 14, 2016 at 2:08 am)Emjay Wrote: It's a pity cos I was just getting used to his new behaviour which seemed to have been pretty consistently positive for months and months... I was gradually starting to rebuild a trust of sorts in him. But it was always a possibility to me that it was all an act... but nonetheless practically at least he was getting better to be around, and that alone was enough. So I don't know what to think now.
In my opinion, it's an act. And my opinion is pretty synonymous with fact, given how much I know. I can't tell you what I know or how I know it, all I can say is that if you trust my word, then you should never trust him. Ever. I wouldn't say this unless I was absolutely certain. I'm astounded that he thinks he could explain it away to me. I guess he has no idea how much I know.
It was transparent the whole time. That's why I threw "1.0" back at his face.
Like I told him last night, as an alcoholic -- that is to say, somone who has had a lot of practice manipulating people in service to my addiction -- I could read his backtracking and see that he wasn't being real; he was laying lines of defense, not honest communication. Shitty as it is to admit this in public, his behavior is so readable to me.
And -- it's not that he thinks he can explain it away to you. What it is is gaslighting -- by repeating his narrative, hoping to twist yours, in a sense imposing his reality upon your own.