(October 27, 2016 at 1:59 pm)Alasdair Ham Wrote: I'm not bickering I'm just expressing my feelings and asking if Nym is glad that I was honest about them. She still hasn't answered. If she doesn't want to that's okay. I don't know what to think. She's called me insincere, a hypocrite, falsely accused me of intentionally guilt tripping, told me not to "act all hurt" when I was honestly expressing my hurt, told me she shouldn't have to walk on "eggshells" when I told her she didn't have to repeatedly, and more than once not answered when I asked her if she was glad I was honest with her about my feelings... and that's fine but I'm not bickering by expressing hurt.
I'm not bickering here: I'm just being hurt and expressing that hurt honestly and then getting the reaction telling me not to "act all hurt". So I'm certainly not bickering. I just got hurt, which is fine, and expressed that hurt honestly, which is fine, and then I just wanted to know if she was glad I was honest about my feelings, which is fine. This is all fine and honest.
I really don't understand all this reaction that when someone is honest about their feelings (me in this case) and someone else doesn't like it (Nym in this case) then according to them the person who was honest about their feelings can't deal with what they said even though it's they who seems to have a problem with them honestly expressing the feelings which they're entitled to express and even though the person who seems to have a problem with that honest emotional expression supposedly values honesty and yet not only seems to have a problem with it but repeatedly fails to answer the following question that would very directly clear things up: Are you glad I honestly expressed my feelings of hurt to you or not?
Well, I think you two are talking past each other, myself. I see fair points on both sides.
Forgive my intrusion ... I'll go on about my business.