Cijs-
On the one hand, you provide. You work hard without complaining. You are patient most of the time. I have your love, you have mine. You bring me flowers to school (not from a flower shop, but from nature itself). You are a willing client and let me cut your hair however I like. You've gone a few months now without the Grizzly Adams look and have stuck to just a goatee and moustache because I don't like a full beard if it's not well groomed. You've interacted more with the kids. You put the dishes away (with prodding from me). You do my laundry because I have asthma and easily get out of breath walking up and down stairs. You've given me two wonderful stepsons that are a huge part of my world.
On the other hand - I don't feel respected by you. It hurts me when you do things that don't involve common sense or when you intentionally play dumb. I'd tell you this, adult to adult, but I feel like you don't care enough to want to listen. So why bother?
The plusses easily outweigh the con's here and for the most part I've got a good man. But why do I feel like I'm alone in this relationship or that I'm the only person who cares about the feelings of my partner? How is that fair to either one of us? Why is it that to get you to do the things you've promised to get done, I have to go on strike or threaten to leave after graduation? I'm tired of a lot of things, really. And I don't know what else to do.
On the one hand, you provide. You work hard without complaining. You are patient most of the time. I have your love, you have mine. You bring me flowers to school (not from a flower shop, but from nature itself). You are a willing client and let me cut your hair however I like. You've gone a few months now without the Grizzly Adams look and have stuck to just a goatee and moustache because I don't like a full beard if it's not well groomed. You've interacted more with the kids. You put the dishes away (with prodding from me). You do my laundry because I have asthma and easily get out of breath walking up and down stairs. You've given me two wonderful stepsons that are a huge part of my world.
On the other hand - I don't feel respected by you. It hurts me when you do things that don't involve common sense or when you intentionally play dumb. I'd tell you this, adult to adult, but I feel like you don't care enough to want to listen. So why bother?
The plusses easily outweigh the con's here and for the most part I've got a good man. But why do I feel like I'm alone in this relationship or that I'm the only person who cares about the feelings of my partner? How is that fair to either one of us? Why is it that to get you to do the things you've promised to get done, I have to go on strike or threaten to leave after graduation? I'm tired of a lot of things, really. And I don't know what else to do.
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