(December 23, 2016 at 3:24 pm)Shell B Wrote: I'm sorry. I can't imagine a world without my dad. It's going to kill me if I don't go first. I think it might kill Tibs too. Luckily, my dad's still quite young. I'm hoping to be old when he kicks the bucket. Mom too.
I lost mine last year (he was only 52, cancer) and it pretty much broke me. Still trying to get my life back together now tbh, although I'm much better than I was.
Somehow, you manage it. It'll never be the same again, but it does get easier.
Perhaps the worst thing about it was that it completely tore my family apart. My one aunt got picked on by my grandmother and other aunt, and they've cut eachother off. My grandmother and the shitty aunt also disappeared after he died, and left it completely to my Mom and the good aunt (who we've grown very close to now) to make the funeral arrangements, only to bitch and whine about what they organised once they re-appeared. That culminated in my Mom and Grandmother cutting eachother off after 30 years of knowing eachother.
Just messy all round.
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"Ironically like the nativist far-Right, which despises multiculturalism, but benefits from its ideas of difference to scapegoat the other and to promote its own white identity politics; these postmodernists, leftists, feminists and liberals also use multiculturalism, to side with the oppressor, by demanding respect and tolerance for oppression characterised as 'difference', no matter how intolerable." - Maryam Namazie
"Ironically like the nativist far-Right, which despises multiculturalism, but benefits from its ideas of difference to scapegoat the other and to promote its own white identity politics; these postmodernists, leftists, feminists and liberals also use multiculturalism, to side with the oppressor, by demanding respect and tolerance for oppression characterised as 'difference', no matter how intolerable." - Maryam Namazie