RE: Can I just say, and I'm just being honest...
January 2, 2017 at 3:04 pm
(This post was last modified: January 2, 2017 at 3:11 pm by robvalue.)
CIJS:
I came to a realisation. I've been making a big error in my thinking.
I have been pinning my hopes of being happy on certain events happening. So much so, that I've excluded the possibility of being happy right now. I've built this cage around myself, and told myself there is only one way out.
This is bullshit. I need to accept things as they are, and to lead my life in a fulfilling way. I must appreciate what I have, instead of always longing for the things I don't. I see now that these events would not be a solution anyway. Sure, they would make me happy, they would be awesome, but life would still be essentially the same. It's understandable that being so depressed leads me to look for escape routes; to seek a massive change. To chase excitement and new experiences.
If these things happen, then great! They will be good. But it must be a bonus. My focus should remain on the present. I can't be forever waiting around for things to change. And although life is very hard, I'm starting to get this. I have addressed issues which were genuinely holding me back from being happy. I've done what was possible to do. Now it's just a matter of working on my health and my anxiety, to get my life in order. I have an amazing wife, fantastic friends and wonderful pets. These are what keep me going, and they are all worth it.
I came to a realisation. I've been making a big error in my thinking.
I have been pinning my hopes of being happy on certain events happening. So much so, that I've excluded the possibility of being happy right now. I've built this cage around myself, and told myself there is only one way out.
This is bullshit. I need to accept things as they are, and to lead my life in a fulfilling way. I must appreciate what I have, instead of always longing for the things I don't. I see now that these events would not be a solution anyway. Sure, they would make me happy, they would be awesome, but life would still be essentially the same. It's understandable that being so depressed leads me to look for escape routes; to seek a massive change. To chase excitement and new experiences.
If these things happen, then great! They will be good. But it must be a bonus. My focus should remain on the present. I can't be forever waiting around for things to change. And although life is very hard, I'm starting to get this. I have addressed issues which were genuinely holding me back from being happy. I've done what was possible to do. Now it's just a matter of working on my health and my anxiety, to get my life in order. I have an amazing wife, fantastic friends and wonderful pets. These are what keep me going, and they are all worth it.
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