CIJS followup
Here's the rest of your issue. Your dad was a raging alcoholic. BUT, he was VERY high functioning, due in no small part to the incredible support system of your mom and your siblings and you. And as it turns out, before your dad could 'hit bottom' and possibly find sobriety and show all of you the last chapter of his addiction, he up and died of something unrelated to his problem.
So you kids get together, and you specifically, replace your dad with a seemingly good candidate drunk, but you effed up, this one isn't high functioning, at all, and no amount of your families co-dependency and support is going to make him 10% of the 'success' your dad was.
The weird part of all this, IMO, is had your dad lived, you'd be in the same predicament you're in now, he was close, oh so close to that final plunge towards his 'bottom', and I'm sure he would have eventually destroyed everything he created on his rise to success.
So don't hate the drunk you're stuck with now, the real villain in your slow motion disaster is YOU. How many times have you heard the suggestion of going to Al-Anon? Well, you still need to go. Your story isn't unique, other's there will tell of their similar responses to their challenges, and you will learn things. Helpful useful things . . .
Here's the rest of your issue. Your dad was a raging alcoholic. BUT, he was VERY high functioning, due in no small part to the incredible support system of your mom and your siblings and you. And as it turns out, before your dad could 'hit bottom' and possibly find sobriety and show all of you the last chapter of his addiction, he up and died of something unrelated to his problem.
So you kids get together, and you specifically, replace your dad with a seemingly good candidate drunk, but you effed up, this one isn't high functioning, at all, and no amount of your families co-dependency and support is going to make him 10% of the 'success' your dad was.
The weird part of all this, IMO, is had your dad lived, you'd be in the same predicament you're in now, he was close, oh so close to that final plunge towards his 'bottom', and I'm sure he would have eventually destroyed everything he created on his rise to success.
So don't hate the drunk you're stuck with now, the real villain in your slow motion disaster is YOU. How many times have you heard the suggestion of going to Al-Anon? Well, you still need to go. Your story isn't unique, other's there will tell of their similar responses to their challenges, and you will learn things. Helpful useful things . . .
The granting of a pardon is an imputation of guilt, and the acceptance a confession of it.