RE: Damned Muslims
October 20, 2010 at 5:32 pm
(This post was last modified: October 20, 2010 at 5:37 pm by Rayaan.)
I don't think that this wife-beating rule makes much of a difference in maintaing a good relationship in Muslim families. As far as I know, I didn't hear any stories from my friends or relatives about a husband hitting his wife due to anger. Maybe I did but right now I don't remember any such case happening. In general, almost all the Muslim couples that I know of live just as happily as any other religion. And I have seen this especially in the relationship between my own parents.
Nobody really cares about whether or not the holy book gives them a permission to beat their wives, because ultimately, everyone knows that the more important thing in Islam is to treat other human beings in the best manner possible and not to cause them any injuries. In a saying by the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him), he said, "The best of you are those who are the best to their wives, and I am the best of you to my wives" (Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 3895; Ibn Maajah, 1977). So, those who say that Islam promotes Muslims to treat women badly, is wrong, and they don't know about the teachings of Islam, because they have been brainwashed by the media and things on the internet into thinking that Islam is evil and so are the Muslims.
A scholar named Al-Qurtubi said:
"Know that God does not command hitting in His Book in clear terms except in this passage and with regard to the prescribed punishments (hudood), so disobedience to husbands is equated with major sins, and God has given the task (of disciplining) to husbands instead of leaders, and without the need for judges, witnesses or evidence, because God has entrusted wives to their husbands."
But of course, many of you don't even believe in God and think that the holy books are all made-up and wishful thinking (since this is an atheist forum).
@Chuck: Yes, a wife could also hit her husband, but is not advisable to do so just like it is not advisable for a man to hit his wife. It's a bad thing either way. Most likely she won't even think about doing it because she has other ways of showing her emotions instead of using her hands. To emphasize the main point once again, a certain level of physical violence is tolerable between a husband and wife according to the Quran, but this does not mean that it is advisable for you to hit them in any way you like and whenever you feel like doing it. I also would NEVER want to do this to anyone.
Edit: I don't have much to add to here because I think I've pretty much said everything I wanted to say on this topic. Now, you can take my views however you like it.
Nobody really cares about whether or not the holy book gives them a permission to beat their wives, because ultimately, everyone knows that the more important thing in Islam is to treat other human beings in the best manner possible and not to cause them any injuries. In a saying by the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him), he said, "The best of you are those who are the best to their wives, and I am the best of you to my wives" (Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 3895; Ibn Maajah, 1977). So, those who say that Islam promotes Muslims to treat women badly, is wrong, and they don't know about the teachings of Islam, because they have been brainwashed by the media and things on the internet into thinking that Islam is evil and so are the Muslims.
A scholar named Al-Qurtubi said:
"Know that God does not command hitting in His Book in clear terms except in this passage and with regard to the prescribed punishments (hudood), so disobedience to husbands is equated with major sins, and God has given the task (of disciplining) to husbands instead of leaders, and without the need for judges, witnesses or evidence, because God has entrusted wives to their husbands."
But of course, many of you don't even believe in God and think that the holy books are all made-up and wishful thinking (since this is an atheist forum).
@Chuck: Yes, a wife could also hit her husband, but is not advisable to do so just like it is not advisable for a man to hit his wife. It's a bad thing either way. Most likely she won't even think about doing it because she has other ways of showing her emotions instead of using her hands. To emphasize the main point once again, a certain level of physical violence is tolerable between a husband and wife according to the Quran, but this does not mean that it is advisable for you to hit them in any way you like and whenever you feel like doing it. I also would NEVER want to do this to anyone.
Edit: I don't have much to add to here because I think I've pretty much said everything I wanted to say on this topic. Now, you can take my views however you like it.