(November 22, 2018 at 11:25 am)anjele Wrote: So, do you also have a fit if you go to someone's house who has the rule...no shoes in the house?
I really don't like that rule but if asked will comply since I am on their turf.
If I already know the 'no shoes rule' is a thing I will make sure I have socks on when I go there.
Seems to me since you keep saying these people are your friends you could have the conversation with them that you prefer not to be asked to join in their prayer circle. Then again, it may be that asking those around their table to join hands and pray is something so common to them that they give it no more thought than most of us do the 'thank you, you're welcome' routine that comes with most business transactions.
I figure you just needed to bitch...about your friends. You should really start that sort of rant with a disclaimer...something along the lines of....I don't care what you think, I just need to vent.
This is a long term picture in our species behavior. It is still about an unwritten assumption that because a majority does things a certain way, it is always good to assume it is "no big deal".
The funny thing is he just PMed me, just now, after I told him thanks for being understanding about why I didn't. So it is funny to me that people are less understanding here than the host I talked to about this very issue.
Now please stop missing that I have pointed out that I was the host, and it was my house, I would still let them pray. AND again, the only thing I objected to was offering me your hand, and expecting me to bow, after you know it is not my thing.
It should not be a "big deal" if I don't hold hands or bow my head. Nobody here can point out where I demanded they don't pray at all. They still did. I would have been an asshole if I had said, "You cant do it yourselves". I didn't do that.
