(December 12, 2018 at 12:50 pm)Shell B Wrote: Whateverist, you've given me no reason not to think the worst. I'm inclined to be less than warm to certain individuals who've recently been less than warm about me, the forum, the staff and certain members. I don't care if you're not inclined to argue with me about it. I don't want to argue with you about it. You and I had a behind-the-scenes discussion that was funny and fine. We disagreed, but had a few laughs about it, I thought. I made a post about wishing your turkey was dry. Obviously kidding, given the nature of our behind-the-scenes talk. Then, my husband says, "I thought you and Whateverist were fine." while reading a thread from another forum where you were talking shit. I said I thought we were too, and then he showed me the thread. Forgive me if I don't care what your inclinations are. You were involved in something I'm still pissed off about, and I'm not pissed for my sake. Someone is absent from this forum because they were ganged up on in a cruel and malicious way, so I won't hear a single word about people being too insulting for any of your tastes because not a single one of you has a leg to stand on in that regard. Good day, sir.
I do feel I've gotten to know you fairly well. I find you interesting, like you well enough and don't feel any less warm toward you. But I am and have expressed criticism of the way you carry yourself as a mod.
As for having a discussion elsewhere with others about what goes on here, I don't see anything wrong with that. Do you? Don't you hang out in slack with your own cadre talking about whatever you like? I see no difference.
It does come down to tastes in the end. For me I'm more interested in having the kinds of conversations I can have with people in person, where I rarely feel the need to be insulting. When people are disingenuous or don't really try to understand my point of view then screw them. But I get no satisfaction from flaming them and when I'm provoked to, I find it far from satisfying. So to me, a discussion about freedom of speech should not revolve around the ability to insult one another. At best, I think it is something we should put up with as inevitable but unfortunate.
I assume the person who is missing and missed is Catholic_Lady. She has been part of my nefarious discussions with my fellow discontents but I don't speak for her.