I'd have mixed emotions about this.
I don't need to be the biologic to be a loving father/provider. I've done it both ways. When it comes to the kid(s), same, same.
But I'd definitely have trust issues with the SO if this was planned and they didn't let me know upfront or tried to put one over on me. I'd probably get over it eventually but doubt things would ever be exactly the same (I can forgive, not so much forget). And I'm not a big fan of unconditional love when it comes to SO's. Plus, if not a biologic, a third party may enter the mix.
Anyway, that's my two cents. Best of luck!
I don't need to be the biologic to be a loving father/provider. I've done it both ways. When it comes to the kid(s), same, same.
But I'd definitely have trust issues with the SO if this was planned and they didn't let me know upfront or tried to put one over on me. I'd probably get over it eventually but doubt things would ever be exactly the same (I can forgive, not so much forget). And I'm not a big fan of unconditional love when it comes to SO's. Plus, if not a biologic, a third party may enter the mix.
Anyway, that's my two cents. Best of luck!
I don't have an anger problem, I have an idiot problem.
