Married to a Christian

[Cinjin]

Well don't force your "beliefs" on him and don't let him enforce his, go to church once in a while if it pleases him(you have to learn to concede somewhere), since you already stated that he does it rarely.

I just can't do that. firstly, it's all in sSwiss German which I don't understand, and secondly because it just feel so deeply wrong to me. I'll go to church for things like funerals, weddings [that aren't mine] etc, because I know it's not about me and my beliefs, it's about others, and theirs. so that seems ok to me....but I shouldn't have to go to church to make my husband happy. he should just be happy with me the way I am. he asked me to marry him, and this is what he's got.

So you want it both ways. You didn't want to inform him of your staunch anti-god views BEFORE you were married, but AFTER he proposed and "got what he got" you're not going to compromise in the least. Although you certainly should never have to submit to his religion - your whole platform is flawed and unfair.

I appreciate and applaud the fact you consider divorce a last resort. My wife and I infuriate the begesus out of each other and we believe the same thing. In a mairrage , I think it happens. Whether it's over idiosyncrasies, beliefs over kids, parenting, in-laws or deeper personal beliefs, your willingness to work on it together is admirable.

I suggest you definately talk out your beliefs so each of you understands where each is coming from and what you guys plan to do in the future (including kids, funerals, etc.). [EDITED]

This is a fair point. Marriages can be infuriating regardless of adding conflicting personal religious beliefs.

However, there may be the possibility of converting your husband Galileo. Converting someone like Tacky would be nearly impossible -- He knows much about his faith and has a myriad of alternative explanations about the corrupt nature of the bible. However, devout Catholics are notoriously naive and often have never even read their Bible, save a couple of verses. In fact, their particular version of Christianity is often so dark and menacing that some easily welcome the chance at freedom and enlightenment with little argument.

If I were you, I'd get my shit together and convert him. When the evidence is presented properly to a christian who has no understanding of what he or she believes the result can be life-changing.

just a thought.