(September 8, 2013 at 7:34 pm)Captain Colostomy Wrote:(September 8, 2013 at 7:19 pm)Kereli Wrote: Yes, of course. Getting her to keep her visits short isn't that hard. But a part of me doesn't want to lose contact with her. Really, it's not like she's round all the time. It's how she behaves that's the problem, always making an issue out of everything.
What sway does this woman have over you that you don't want to lose contact with her? If you don't put a stop to her shit now, you may well end up divorced like her. If need be, estrange yourself from her now while you're still young...that way there is hope for a reconciliation. I did this with my batshit loony mom...and mother-in-law. By my mid thirties, it worked itself out. Time outs can work wonders.
That's actually a good idea. I never thought of it like that. I'm not hopeful that she'll change but I could give it a go. But for me the most important thing is to deal with my dislike of women in general that she's managed to instill in me with her ridiculous ideas.